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I guess that's kinda what I was asking. How do I make it clear without sounding like uptight, bumbling fool? lol

Now how do I know if it's a date or just hanging out with a friend?

Just a little background: I'm 21 and have very little experience with dating/asking women out. I'm also pretty shy and at times fairly self-conscious. My question: How do you ask someone out? I'm not really looking for how to build up the courage, but rather some examples of phrasing. Also, how bad is it to ask someone out in writing, ie, email, IM? It's just I'm much more comfortable when I have that cusion that the 'backspace' key provides.

If he is indeed a shy, quiet guy, he'd probably love for you to make the first move. I personally, (a extremely shy guy myself) would love for a woman to ask me out for once.

Thanks everyone. I took your advice and told her I was going to stop bring up the subject and that she can take all the time she wants. 2 days later, I got a date. She wants to take it very slow and that's perfectly ok with me. I also think I convinced her that the whether she's good enough for me should be my decision, not hers. I think her only issue right now is a fear of ruining our friendship. Anyone have any ideas on how to explain to her that that won't happen?

It's quite clear that she is interested in me, believe me. I'm not about to date someone else. For one thing, right now I can't think of anyone besides her. For another, she's brought it up before that she's hesitant because she feels there's someone else out there who's better than her. I don't want to lose her by playing hard-to-get. I'm definantly willing to give it a try and made it quite clear that I'm interested in her. Anyway, thanks everyone for the advice, I think I got some ideas now. Also, I think I was kinda pushing too hard/fast, so I'm definantly going to tone it down.

I've recently gotten pretty close to this one girl from work. I've known her for about 3-4 months, and been interested in her for about as long. I had never considered asking her out though because she told me shortly after meeting that she was taking a break from dating. Just this last weekend, we went camping with some mutual friends. We ended up sharing the tent and cuddling most the nights. The 3rd and final night there, we had a long 3 hour conversation. We then continued the conversation the next night over the internet. Basically what I got from the conversation was she feels that I deserves better than her. She claims that as people get to know her, they wish they hadn't. She also apparently has developed a fear of relationships due to some poor ones in the past. However, she told me she's closer to going out with me than any other guy in a long time. Here's my qusetion. How do I: 1) convince her that not only do I not deserve a perfect person, but that she is in fact plenty perfect enough for me? and 2) help her realize that the risk will be worth it?