First of all, good luck to you! And I broke NC...I had a bad night and kind of freaked out and called him. As far as effort, he's just going from ignoring every attempt of mine to contact him, and not trying to contact me if I don't try to contact him, to talking with me casual. He asks me if I'm alright, and we've been joking around every few days or so. The conversations are brief and surface level usually, but it seems like we're enjoying each other again.
I would love to get back together...I don't want to force something that won't ever work, but that's sort of the goal here for me. He's expressed a need for space in the past to work on his own issues, so I think NC might help with that. But at the same time, will he think I'm being callous not talking with him?