Dear eNotAlone: I really like this boy at school, but I'm not sure if he likes me back. We have spoken a few times, but I'm worried that my feelings may be one-sided. Is there any way that I can tell if his feelings might be mutual?
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When it comes to understanding if someone has feelings for you, it can be difficult to know what they are thinking. It is important to remember that no matter how it may feel, you are not responsible for how they feel. The best way to figure out if they have feelings for you is to pay attention to the signs.
One of the signs to look out for is whether or not your crush initiates conversations with you. If the boy you like approaches you to talk and starts telling you about himself, this could be a sign that he is interested in getting to know you better. Pay close attention to the tone of the conversations too. A cheerful, upbeat tone can be an indication that your crush is comfortable around you and truly likes spending time with you.
Another sign of mutual attraction is body language. If your crush is always facing in your direction when you're hanging out and if he smiles and looks into your eyes, these are all positive signs that he is interested in you.
Also take note of how often your crush talks about other people he might like. If he never talks about anyone else in a romantic way and only focuses on talking about you, there's a good chance that he is interested in you romantically.
If the boy you've got your eye on goes out of his way to help you, this is a big sign that he has feelings for you. If he seems eager to offer assistance with whatever you're working on, this can be a sign that he is interested in more than just being friends.
No one can give you specific advice on how to tell if someone has feelings for you, but paying attention to these signs can be a helpful way of getting a better idea of what their true feelings are. Remember, all interactions will be different and it may take some time to really decipher the signals that your crush is sending.