Ians Mommy Posted July 18, 2006 Share Posted July 18, 2006 Why'd Ian think I was completely weird last night for downloading porn for us to watch? It seemed like the idea disgusted him for us to watch porn together. Link to comment
avman Posted July 18, 2006 Share Posted July 18, 2006 Well maybe he's just not comfortable with it. Not ALL guys want to watch porn. Link to comment
Hope75 Posted July 18, 2006 Share Posted July 18, 2006 Avman is right, not all guys watch porn, and some people like to watch porn privately-- masturbation isn't always a shared activity. What's a 16 year old doing down loading porn?? Link to comment
bobo85 Posted July 18, 2006 Share Posted July 18, 2006 he may feel uncomfortable because he may feel guilty about looking at pornstars with desire when you are there. Also he might be intimadited by the male pornstar because those guys have a large penis and can last for days. Link to comment
BetterKarma Posted July 18, 2006 Share Posted July 18, 2006 For a lot of people, watching porn is a personal thing. Society dictates that porn is obscene and should be hidden. Your fiance probably isn't comfortable with the idea of showing his interest in porn in front of you because you are a "girl." Girls are suppose to be demure and proper, definitely not porn watchers! BLAH! Load of crap, I tell ya! But either way, talk to him about it and ask him why he feels uncomfortable and tell them why you want to watch porn together. Make him comfortable with the idea first and then try again. Link to comment
CarnelianButterfly Posted July 18, 2006 Share Posted July 18, 2006 It is illegal for you to be downloading porn, so it might be that has a impact on his view. It may not be what he likes, some guys just don't get turned on by the false and desensitized feel that porn has. I know several men that would rather have a real, warm woman that they care about nibble their ear then watch some inflated chested woman make faces and fake moans. Link to comment
Ians Mommy Posted July 18, 2006 Author Share Posted July 18, 2006 What's a 16 year old doing down loading porn?? lol I think of porn as a way to find new interesting positions. I like it lol. he may feel uncomfortable because he may feel guilty about looking at pornstars with desire when you are there. Also he might be intimadited by the male pornstar because those guys have a large penis and can last for days. Yeah, but wouldn't he realize that I didn't care if he looked at them with desire if I downloaded it for us? He's not the biggest guy in the world but he knows I'm perfectly happy with his size. It's the way you use it, not the size. For a lot of people, watching porn is a personal thing. Society dictates that porn is obscene and should be hidden. Your fiance probably isn't comfortable with the idea of showing his interest in porn in front of you because you are a "girl." Girls are suppose to be demure and proper, definitely not porn watchers! BLAH! Load of crap, I tell ya! But either way, talk to him about it and ask him why he feel uncomfortable and tell them why you want to watch porn together. Make him comfortable with the idea first and then try again. I'm definitely not a normal "proper" girl. If I was, I wouldn't be 6 months pregnant right now lol. In my case, I've liked porn for awhile. I'm going to ask him about it when he gets home from work soon cause that really made me feel kinda down last night. I thought he'd be able to enjoy it with me. It is illegal for you to be downloading porn, so it might be that has a impact on his view. It may not be what he likes, some guys just don't get turned on by the false and desensitized feel that porn has. I know several men that would rather have a real, warm woman that they care about nibble their ear then watch some inflated chested woman make faces and fake moans. haha I really don't think he cares that I was illegally downloading porn. We've probably talked about every other subject under the moon but it's weird that we had never talked about porn. I'm going to talk to him when he gets home from work which should be any time now. Link to comment
vandgsmom Posted July 18, 2006 Share Posted July 18, 2006 Hmmm... Could it be that maybe now that you are showing that he is uncomfortable with you being so openly and aggressivly sexual? I mean, sort of in the same way that some men have a problem with having sex with their pregnant mates b/c they don't want their thingy so close to the baby, maybe he dosen't want to be that kind of aroused with you now that there is evidence of baby Ian being right there between you as a witness... Could be I am right, could be I am full of crap and need to go to bed... You decide. Link to comment
Aurian Posted July 18, 2006 Share Posted July 18, 2006 I always thought its good to talk about new things to try sexually. Different people have different things they are open to and not open to. Maybe he simply isn't interested in porn. Not every guy likes porn, no more than every woman likes shoes or the colour pink Besides, its sometimes sexy to talk about new sexy things! Link to comment
Ians Mommy Posted July 18, 2006 Author Share Posted July 18, 2006 Hmmm... Could it be that maybe now that you are showing that he is uncomfortable with you being so openly and aggressivly sexual? I mean, sort of in the same way that some men have a problem with having sex with their pregnant mates b/c they don't want their thingy so close to the baby, maybe he dosen't want to be that kind of aroused with you now that there is evidence of baby Ian being right there between you as a witness... Could be I am right, could be I am full of crap and need to go to bed... You decide. lol I completely understand what you're saying and you're not full of crap. However, I don't think thats the case. We've been completely open sexually since we got back together in April. Even though he wouldn't watch the porn with me last night, we still did end up having sex so I don't really know why it was that he want to watch it. He just called like 5 minutes ago.. He's on his way home so I'll let you know after I talked to him... Link to comment
Ians Mommy Posted July 18, 2006 Author Share Posted July 18, 2006 Not every guy likes porn, no more than every woman likes shoes or the colour pink That's definitely true. I hate pink and own 2 pairs of shoes (Adio sneakers that I'll never get rid of and my work shoes). Link to comment
Jesus Christ Posted July 18, 2006 Share Posted July 18, 2006 Downloading porn illegal at the age of 16? The law doesnt equal right Link to comment
Ians Mommy Posted July 18, 2006 Author Share Posted July 18, 2006 Downloading porn illegal at the age of 16? The law doesnt equal right What do you mean by that? Link to comment
Ians Mommy Posted July 18, 2006 Author Share Posted July 18, 2006 I talked to him last night about it for awhile. Basically his answer wasn't what I had expected lol. He said that he did like porn until a few months ago. He said one night before he basically moved in with me, he went to watch a porn and it didn't even get him off. He said he loved me and only wanted me to the point where porn wasn't even getting him off, that only I was. I guess that was sweet? lol. I love him so much. Link to comment
eriko Posted July 18, 2006 Share Posted July 18, 2006 He might be lying, but that's pessimistic thinking. If my girl offered to willingly watch porn with me I'd do it in a second. It would obviously lead to us having sex, which is always welcomed. Link to comment
Ians Mommy Posted July 19, 2006 Author Share Posted July 19, 2006 He might be lying, but that's pessimistic thinking. If my girl offered to willingly watch porn with me I'd do it in a second. It would obviously lead to us having sex, which is always welcomed. I don't think he'd lie to me about watching porn. I don't know. We're fine so it's no big deal. Link to comment
northernlights Posted July 19, 2006 Share Posted July 19, 2006 I think what he said about not wanting to watch porn because he has you is really sweet. And I agree...if you two have got a really close relationship and you've been pushing him to watch porn and he hasn't, I don't think he's lying. You've got yourself a catch there. And true, not every guy likes to watch porn. Some think it's fake and not arousing. I've definitely met perfectly normal, testoterone-driven straight men who have found porn to be weird or degrading to women. Link to comment
Ians Mommy Posted July 19, 2006 Author Share Posted July 19, 2006 I think what he said about not wanting to watch porn because he has you is really sweet. And I agree...if you two have got a really close relationship and you've been pushing him to watch porn and he hasn't, I don't think he's lying. You've got yourself a catch there. And true, not every guy likes to watch porn. Some think it's fake and not arousing. I've definitely met perfectly normal, testoterone-driven straight men who have found porn to be weird or degrading to women. He said that and I just gave him a huge hug and told him that I loved him and he just held me in his arms and gave me a huge kiss. I love him so much and I'm scared to love someone as much as I love him. I'm definitely not going to let him go any time soon. Link to comment
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