SeaBisquit Posted April 5, 2006 Share Posted April 5, 2006 What do I do when I want the relationship to be more serious but I feel he doesn't want it to? He says we are in a relationship but he doesn't say to much about our future together, he talks more about him and his son living together and doesn't say anything about us living together at all. Should I take this as a sign. I don't really want to question him to much as to where things are headed because I don't want to pressure him, but on the other hand I"m getting impatient. Link to comment
SilverManic Posted April 5, 2006 Share Posted April 5, 2006 I would personally ask him. 'Do you see us together in the future?' I'm sorry this is short but that is all I can say on the matter. Maybe you don't want to put pressure on him but you shouldn't waist your time either.. ~S. Link to comment
bobo85 Posted April 5, 2006 Share Posted April 5, 2006 ^^^ agreed^^^ It may hurt you if he says he doesn't. But at least you can start your healing process faster and move on to the next person. Link to comment
SeaBisquit Posted April 5, 2006 Author Share Posted April 5, 2006 well i'm getting the idea that he doesn't want a furture with me because their isn't any talk of it. just talk of him and his son. and their future together. Link to comment
Goodfun88 Posted April 5, 2006 Share Posted April 5, 2006 I always ask where I stand. Sometimes you get an answer you want, and sometimes you get an answer you don't want. But having an answer is much better than waiting in limbo wondering what he is thinking. Maybe he thinks its to soon to talk about the future with you, or maybe he isn't sure yet or maybe he sees you in his future but doesn't know what you think. Asking is the only way you will get peace of mind. Good luck! Link to comment
SilverManic Posted April 5, 2006 Share Posted April 5, 2006 I agree with Goodfun. That sounds about right to me. It could be a combination of those some guys don't tend to make up their mind as quickly as us women do and sometimes it's the otherway around. ~S. Link to comment
SeaBisquit Posted April 5, 2006 Author Share Posted April 5, 2006 ok, so how do i ask without sounding to insecure? Link to comment
Goodfun88 Posted April 5, 2006 Share Posted April 5, 2006 Just be honest. Next time he is talking about his plans for him and his son, ask him if he sees you in those plans. How long have you been with him? Link to comment
Beyondthesea Posted April 5, 2006 Share Posted April 5, 2006 How long have you dated him? If it's less than 6 months don't ask the 'where do we stand' questions. Link to comment
shiminimo Posted April 5, 2006 Share Posted April 5, 2006 sea, you have alot of doubts, get brave say what's up. let him know how you are feeling. Link to comment
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