Does your boyfriend beat you up? HELP

[jensxcom]

I was visiting an older cousin, we were just hanging out, talking.

[yeawutever]

Well maybe cuz that's how some guys are perceived as. Some jerks do get psysical, maybe that's why ur older cuz ask you that.

[jensxcom]

Maybe cause he beats his wife or his friends do?

 

I thought it was bizarre he would ask me this I was just talking, making small talk, he barely knows me at all.

 

I feel disgusted by his question

[yeawutever]

Yea, I would feel the same way, it's a very weird question. I'm guessing he has issues.

[jensxcom]

yeah at the time i brushed it off but now im thinking of it more and i think it was totally messed up, weird, and also what does this guy think of me to ask me that?

 

I just lost respect for him and want to have less contact with him after asking me that.. He couldve just said well how is he a jerk, what does he do?

He just came out and goes "DOES HE BEAT YOU UP"?

 

i think its disgusting. I havent even told my Mom and my brother he said that.

[BillyJean714]

Or, here's another side to it, maybe he grew up watching his mother get beaten up, so he assumes that when a guy's a jerk, he beats women up, because that's what he perceived to be true.

 

If he asked in a way that he seemed really concerned for you, then it's probably becasue he's trying to act like a brother and watch over you.

[pchellak]

I noticed in this post that guys did not have any comments. Probably a lot of guys are thinking like me. We say the stupidest things, sometimes without thinking first. Maybe he was teasing you or maybe he was being dramatic. I dont see a reason to analyze that one blurt and assume he is an abusive person based on just one comment. Unless you have other reasons to suspect that he is abusive.