holding hands

[orgasmictofu]

I've been with my bf for about 5 months now. He's the sweetest guy. We're very good together. We've even talked about moving in together at some point.

 

My dilemma, though it's not THAT big of a dilemma, is holding hands. I like holding hands walking through a mall or taking a walk or whatever, but I am a chicken to actually do it first. I took his hand once when we first started dating, but he seemed so uncomfortable that I never tried again.

 

I'm kind of curious to see how many people are ok with holding hands and how many are not. I'm generally not into public displays, but I think holding hands is innocent enough.

 

And should I try again? Or leave it up to him?

[PassionatePices]

Try it again.

[Lonelyinasmalltown]

I'd try it again. Personally I love holding hands in public when I'm with someone. It's just a great way of saying we belong to each other, you know?

[SLMitchell918]

It can't hurt to try it again. If you enjoy it, let him know by attempting to hold his had. It is innocent enough!

[janey17]

when you tried holding his hand before, was it early on in your dating? cuz if so, he's probably okay with it now too. i'd definitely try again!!

[coollady1957]

I think holding hands is perfectly fine in public. I would say to try it again. Before ,you said it was at the beginning when you started dating when you tried holding hands. Now its 5 months later, so maybe he is more comfortable with the idea now.

[Kaia]

In general i'm a little against public display but holding hands is perfectly ok! My boyfriend has some problems too, he seems uncomfortable holding hands with me when we bump into someone he knows. But if it's someone who knows about us dating already then he is fine with it... gradually. Sometimes it just takes time. Especially if the guy hasn't had much experience, maybe he just doesn't know what to do with other people around. If there is no other indication of him not wanting to be close to you, or him not wanting other people to know you're dating, then there is no problem there.

 

Definitely try again, and if it proves to be a problem then talk with him.

OR, try again, and then ask him if the action was alright with him. Perhaps he has been wondering about the same! Don't leave it as a guessing game!

[Mrocza]

Why don't you try what I like to call the "pinky link".

 

It's not as intimate as holding hands, but you can gradually get your boyfriend used to holding (parts of) hands.

 

You hook onto each others pinkies. It's actually kind of cute and when we're in crowded places, it works better than holding hands for staying together

[orgasmictofu]

That's it! I'm going to go for it! Next time we're out and about, I'm just going to suck it up and try. What's he going to do? Break up with me?

 

I like the pinky idea, it seems so cute

 

It's so awkward when we go out and not hold hands, it's all I think about. I keep thinking "should I? Does he want to? Is he feeling awkward to?". It's so bad I avoid public places in general.

 

But I will try for sure. Thanks!

[prozzack]

yea do it and dont be nervous ether,

 

i think you should grab his hands with both hands too sandwish him and dont let him go

[rajabah]

I'm a guy and I love it.

 

Perhaps he gets sweaty palms or something.

[xprincessbugx]

Holding hands is innocent and he'll prolly be surprised when you actually hold his hand since he's usually the one to initiate it.

[Lansing]

wow.... after reading your posts about your great sex life with him, I wouldn't have expected this post from you! Yeah, I think hand holding is great.... However, I have gone out with some girls that get a bit "Tense" from hand holding....