paitball30 Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 im 13 im in middle school and need help!!!!! im shy and is a pretty girl im in 4/6. today i saw her holding hand with another boy! what should i do give up or wait for a break up Link to comment
jna35 Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 If she is with someone else, I would definitely advise waiting. Link to comment
STARSHINE42 Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 Aw, well if she has a boyfriend. Just be friends with her, if anything. You don't want to get in the middle. Get to know her and who knows maybe one day in the future you could be boyfriend and girlfriend. But I wouldn't worry about it so much. I'm sure theyre are lot's of pretty girls in your school besides her. And you are so young..trust me you will have a lot more crushes. Link to comment
paitball30 Posted October 19, 2005 Author Share Posted October 19, 2005 i have asking friends what to do they all say ask her out. should i? Link to comment
STARSHINE42 Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 i have asking friends what to do they all say ask her out. should i? No..not if she has a boyfriend Link to comment
paitball30 Posted October 19, 2005 Author Share Posted October 19, 2005 im not sure about boyfriend. but 50% sure Link to comment
paitball30 Posted October 19, 2005 Author Share Posted October 19, 2005 hay can i get some male help here Link to comment
lunatic Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 I would be her friend and wait it out. At your age I cannot imagine that relationship lasting for too long. I would wait and befriend her so who knows what may happen in the future. If your not sure if she does have a bf or not then ask one of her friends. Link to comment
paitball30 Posted October 20, 2005 Author Share Posted October 20, 2005 what if her friends tell her Link to comment
MetallicAguy Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 Don't go for really hot chicks man, because you'll probably never get 'em then you'll give up on girls or something. Unless you have the brains to date girls that you actually have some potential with. Like if your in the lower social groups/stereotypes below "middle" as people call that, then go for girls in that group....hey its the best you can get unless you're like mr.personality or something or really good-looking lol. Plus girls don't realize that just because her preppy guy friends are good-looking doesn't mean that matches their personality (in some cases yes, but mostly no). Until 9th grade I'd say is when girls break out of that phase and go for different guys (That's how it happened for me....it can be different for other people but in 7th grade they just go out with the preppy guys basically). Because usually one tends to go out with some guy outside of the in crowd basically and then her friends give it a try. And just because the girls really hot doesn't mean she's going to be like absolute fun to be around. She could have a bunch of insecurities and stuff and could be a real pain in the ***. Just go for like the less hotter girls they tend to have less problems from my experience, I'd say try girls that are good-looking but not stunning. Average is good too. It's about the personality man, after you get a gorgeous chick she gets hella boring after a while and you end up going out for 2 weeks or 2 months or something. Basically what I'm saying is just pick a unique girl alright because otherwise your wasting your time pretty much. And dating is basically about seeing whatcha like and having fun in the process so why date someone hella boring and good-looking, than dating someone semi-hot but full of personality? Link to comment
paitball30 Posted October 20, 2005 Author Share Posted October 20, 2005 she not that hot but should i asker out to a foot ball game?????? Link to comment
MetallicAguy Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 Oh yeah, and who cares if her friends tell her? I mean they're going to anyway. And you want to go out with her right? So its not going to really matter if you end up going out anyway. Pfft, I just think your infatuated. Plus I think its a good thing to ask if she has a bf because your fishing out information and it'll let the girl you like know your interested because her friends obviously are going to tell her. And if she doesn't like you she won't care, will be disgusted, give you funny looks, etc. Link to comment
MetallicAguy Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 Yeah, asking her out to a football games pretty good man for your age. It's better than the overused movies tactic . Make sure you ask her questions and tell her she looks good (don't over-do the compliment, say it once). Ask questions about her personality and stuff, don't just go out to a football game and hang out like friends. Your going out on a date for a reason its not some hang out thing man. If you believe it is, obviously your not mature enough to go out anyway. Well the first date should be casual and stuff and you should learn things about each other (not too much, just tell her some interesting things so she'll want to find out more about you, like tell her 3 things she'd be interested in about yourself) so after you learn a few interesting things you'll want to go out again and get to know her better. You should pay more attention to her than the football game , or she'll get the wrong idea. Link to comment
paitball30 Posted October 20, 2005 Author Share Posted October 20, 2005 i have asked about 4 questions all ready she in to video games Link to comment
MetallicAguy Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 Well if that appeals to you that she's unique that's good...what else? Link to comment
paitball30 Posted October 20, 2005 Author Share Posted October 20, 2005 we have talk about school work but sens today after lunch i showed no sign of interest was that right to do after a bad day Link to comment
MetallicAguy Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 I didn't fully understand what you said there lol. Smile at her man like when you 2 lock eyes in the halls...if that is she does lock eyes with you in the halls. If she does lock eyes with you in the halls a lot then yeah she most likely is interested, it's a big give away though if she combines a smile with it too. Also if she "accidently" bumps into you too that's a good thing. Oh yeah and if she has a boyfriend and likes him well then she will make up an excuse for why she can't go to the football game with you. If she says she can arrange another time to go to a local football game then don't worry about it she actually is busy. It's just that if you ask her out like a few times and its an excuse every time and you feel like your not getting any signals then she's not interested. But all is fair in love and war, so ask her out, who gives a **** if she has a bf, at least let her know your interested or you'll become friends over time and like she won't want to ruin the friendship...its probably like the worst feeling in the world to be told this really. And it is stupid, but it is your fault you didn't throw a wrench in her friends category to start with. So do it early on, if she rejects you that's ok because she'll at least know your interested and you won't become her nice guy friend basically. Link to comment
paitball30 Posted October 20, 2005 Author Share Posted October 20, 2005 what if i ball out after being rejected??? 8) im to senseaive Link to comment
MetallicAguy Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 Then sprout some balls man. She will think your a wimp or something. And really, its not like its the end of the world. Its a girl and there's like more chicks than guys out there in the world, seriously man get some testosterone lol. She's probably not like your soulmate anyway so stop looking at it like your going to get married someday and have kids. I think your just infatuated and you like her because she's really hot, get over her. Get to be friends with a girl your not so interested in but she is attractive, then see how it goes from there. If your attracted but not really interested but you get to be friends with her its so much easier than if you were really infatuated and couldn't talk to her or anything. Link to comment
paitball30 Posted October 25, 2005 Author Share Posted October 25, 2005 today she asked who i liked should i have ansered? Link to comment
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