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[Sexychiick16]

ignore her phone calls

ignore her coming over.

tell her your working late.

 

make yourself busy! Have a guys night out~

dont let her geet the control!!

 

that girls got you whipped, no offence.

 

if your still in love with her, get counceling!!!

[Hope75]

ignore her phone calls

ignore her coming over.

tell her your working late.

 

make yourself busy! Have a guys night out~

dont let her geet the control!!

 

that girls got you whipped, no offence.

 

if your still in love with her, get counceling!!!

 

This is a pretty unreasonable suggestion considering they have a baby on the way, wouldn't you say?

 

Apollo, have you talked to your gf about her daughter? Maybe together the two of you can help her daughter become more accepting of your presense. Her daughter may be afraid that the attention your gf pays to you is taking that attention away from her, and you two both need to reassure the daughter that this is not the case, that you are both here for her and willing to give her the attention that she needs.

 

As for your gf, does she want to have this baby? Do you want to marry her? Why the sudden change of heart about sex? Do you think it's more about the hormones than the reason she gave you?

 

Your gf may be afraid that you too are going to leave her alone and pregnant, as the father of her daughter did, and because of this fear she may be driving you away inadvertantly, to, in a sense, "get it over with" before you decide to do so yourself. It may be a self protective measure, that ends up being ultimately destructive.

 

I think what you need to do is sit her down and tell her how you are feeling and give her a chance to express her feelings, find out if she is afraid you will abandon her, what you can do about it, and how the two of you together can work towards helping her daughter get comfortable with the idea that you aren't taking her place in her mom's heart.

 

What do you think?

[skyjuice]

Hi Sexychiick16,

 

Hope75 is right.

 

The daughter scared that you take away attention from the mother.

The mother scared that the daughter could not adjust/accept a new future dad, so the mother would pay more attention to her. Basically, a mother would count the daughter welfare inside when considering a new man. From your post, you have did very well in taking care of them.

It is possible that it is a major step for them to accept a new man in their life, so it take time to adjust to it. Moreover, the mother is having your child--that is really a major step for her.

Try to looking from her perspective. Tell her and her daugther how you feel, and find a way to make it work.

Good luck.