overit1607307174 Posted June 12, 2005 Share Posted June 12, 2005 my fiance started cutting a few weeks ago, and weve promised each other that we wont do it..... we ask each other every day if we did it and lately the answer has always been no...... till today....... he did it last night.... and its pretty bad. hes gotten to the point i was at a few years ago and im really worried about him and i dont know what to do. i mean theres nothing i can do. hes seen me cry over the whole situation but i mean i cant b mad at him for something i do/ did myself...... what can i do?! Link to comment
kskm Posted June 12, 2005 Share Posted June 12, 2005 You Do or DID? If you did then you can explain to him that you stopped for a good reason, but if you still do then maybe by you seeing him hurt himself you can see how you would be hurting him by you cutting. Either way you need to sit him down and have a serious conversation about it. Link to comment
overit1607307174 Posted June 12, 2005 Author Share Posted June 12, 2005 we've talked A LOT about it.... and i did/ do cut. Its been about 2 weeks and i made a promise to him that i wont do it. hes broken his promise to me twice now..... those r the only 2 times hes EVER broken any promise...... so yeah..... Link to comment
Hope75 Posted June 12, 2005 Share Posted June 12, 2005 Has either of you considered counselling or sought it at any point? I think a good first step would be for both of you to get into counselling and get some professional, objective help. From what I undestand cutting is a very serious illness of sorts and definitely needs some attention. Maybe if you can talk freely with a therapist about it you can understand why it happens and how to stop it for good. Best of luck to both of you. Link to comment
Blue Skittles Posted June 12, 2005 Share Posted June 12, 2005 I agree - you both need to get to counselling, especially if you are planning to get married, it would be great to both of you and help build a foundation for your marriage. Link to comment
Finchabald Posted June 12, 2005 Share Posted June 12, 2005 Try seeking professional help. You dont need his worries on your mind too. Im sure the same must apply to him. My girlfriend tried to make me stop before when i just wasnt ready and i did for a few days but it came back worse. Seek counselling, It can really help some people. Link to comment
ladyluck Posted June 21, 2005 Share Posted June 21, 2005 cutting is like smoking once you get addicted weither you like it or not it's hard to ever stop, but it's possible with help. see a councelor and if you guys don't want to sit him down open up then come up with your own plans to keep you two busy till you're so busy and then worn out by the end of the day that you don't have time to or even just when you get the urge to cut do a tiresome workout till it's gone. try all sorts of things but i wish you all the best. Link to comment
overit1607307174 Posted June 25, 2005 Author Share Posted June 25, 2005 so heres a little update. i havent cut in 3 weeks, and he hasnt cut in about 2. since im only 17 we've decided to wait on couselling till i can go w/o my parents finding out. we alson dont have very much money as of right now... so we cant really afford it. but we've been talking a lot more and things seem to have gotten better. we're keeping each other in check. Link to comment
ladyluck Posted June 25, 2005 Share Posted June 25, 2005 that's good to hear. i wish you two the best of luck and a happy life together. Link to comment
Hope75 Posted June 25, 2005 Share Posted June 25, 2005 Yes, both of you nice job on helping each other. If it gets hard, don't be afraid to get outside help, like telling your parents. Keep it up! Link to comment
perfectliljewel Posted June 25, 2005 Share Posted June 25, 2005 CONGRATS!!!! you should be very very very proud of yourself! keep it up!!!! Link to comment
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