EnolWolf Posted April 7, 2005 Share Posted April 7, 2005 I didn't think I'd be back so soon, but here's an issue I have now. I wrote a poem describing how pushy my girlfriend USED TO BE on 1/22/05. Today I was going through all of my poems and nearly forgot that I wrote it. Since that time, I've fallen deeply in love with her. I feel that I can share anything with her, even if it may hurt her. I wrote this about her, so she has the right to know how she made me feel about 3 months ago. The poem, although not very sweet, nearly brought tears to my eyes. These were tears of happiness. It's because I'm proud of how far we've come in terms of our feelings. A lot has changed since that poem. I brought up this poem tonight and my girlfriend gets angry with me. Keep in mind that I haven't read the poem. I only explained what I felt at the time. Nothing bad about her was said. Also the poem was only into 2 months of our relationship. I feel that rocky starts are common. I would love to work for my relationship than have it perfect at the start. More appreciation... Anyway, I don't want to hurt her. I seem to already have. Is being honest so bad? I don't want to keep anything from her no matter what it is. In my book, if you truly love someone you can share anything. Is there a line drawn with honesty? Can it be too much? Am I too honest? Any comments will be greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading. Link to comment
EnolWolf Posted April 7, 2005 Author Share Posted April 7, 2005 Pushy What do you want!? I'm giving all I've got You're expecting too much I won't change to what I'm not You make me so mad You have too much pride I'd rather not tell you I'll just hold it inside It's you who's not considerate You're demanding so much From the very first kiss To our very last touch It's all about you, But you can't even see The struggles I go through To still be me At first you were helping Now you're tearing me apart In a relationship of expectance Not from the heart What else can I do? I can only care I know what love is You haven't been there You have right to no opinion You can't even judge You just act omnipotent Like you don't have a smudge I'm not a bad guy Sometimes I feel that's not true I take it all in Just to be with you I've crawled through anguish Happily skipped through joy Embraced the disappointments Yet, you're always so coy You say I'm cheap That's not the case You're materialistic And that's a disgrace You know what I went through And how hard I tried You were there on the phone The last time I cried You aren't here now You've developed many wants If they can't be satisfied You endure my taunts We don't understand each other? I act like we do? What are you talking about? I haven't got a clue! I'm not playing games! I just don't understand How you can expect so much From just a simple man You call me conceited, Yet call yourself a princess Then twist it around To the point it's excess I'm not going to change I'm willing to compromise It's hard to see your vision Because I don't have your eyes Take this time to think Judge what you have done This is a true relationship Only missing fun Link to comment
DN Posted April 7, 2005 Share Posted April 7, 2005 In this case, she probably would like to think that you always thought she was perfect and you kinda burst her bubble. Being honest can be unwise. So you need to do something to make it up. Send her some flowers with a card saying you are sorry if you hurt her feelings, that you love her very much and would never do that intentionaly. Link to comment
melrich Posted April 7, 2005 Share Posted April 7, 2005 Have you seen the Jim Carey movie where he can't help but tell the truth? I think sometimes we have to temper what we say to other people because brutal honesty can really hurt people's feelings, particularly when we are talking about subjective comments like "you're too pushy". Maybe try toning the brutally honest observations down a bit and if you feel there is something you have to say to someone, try and put as much context around it as you can. Link to comment
EnolWolf Posted April 7, 2005 Author Share Posted April 7, 2005 I agree. I guess there can be cons to honesty. I just don't want to build a fantasy though. I want to be completely realistic. I'll lighten up. Thanks for replying! Link to comment
xxserialkisserxx Posted April 7, 2005 Share Posted April 7, 2005 I just wanted to say that the poem was really good...i guess theres all different aspects of honesty but its always good to be honest just soften the honesty up a little bit for example if your girlfriend comes up to you and says" Baby, deos this make me look fat"? ( typical question with no right answer) If it deos , instead of saying , goodamn that poor dress what are you doing to it?? You look great but the dress isnt good enough for you, or somthing like that....good luck!!! Link to comment
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