How to stay calm...

[MetallicAguy]

Ok, so I get really nervous around this girl I like, usually I am calm around other women but I don't know why I get nervous. I get really energetic as if I just took 10 caffeine pills lol. Maybe it's because I'm not confident with myself idk. And when I'm not around her I slowly relax. Anyone know a way to act yourself(As in don't be all nervous and stuff) and be relaxed with yourself around a girl you like?

[FuriousSam]

Don't think of her as if she is the world to you. Think and believe that you are the world to her and your nervousness should be gone. And another thing is that you might be afraid of getting rejected by her.

[MetallicAguy]

Yeah I am afraid to get rejected by her because I like her so much, we have a lot in common.

[MetallicAguy]

Thx that helps.

[FuriousSam]

Think of it this way: If you ask her out and she rejects you, you only regret that for a brief moment. Now if you get scared and never ask her out, you will regret that for life.

 

When you get nervous the next time you see her thinking that you want to ask her out, just remember this. It can be hard at times when you keep telling yourself that you are going to ask her out and building yourself up then when the moment comes, you get all scared and just want to run away. But focus on what's important and you will succeed (In getting rid of the nervousness, I dunno much about the girl in question).

[MetallicAguy]

I want to basically get to know her first, then if I still like her then I'll ask her out, and if she rejects I'll still be friends with her..If she did even like me though or was too shy to say she did she probably will want to talk to me alot and will flirt and etc.

[FuriousSam]

Start asking her to hang out with you or maybe with a few friends first. Don't fall into the friend zone. I am not saying that you can't get out of the friend zone, but why have her looking for other guys when you are right there, you know? So start moving forward, but not too fast. Subtly let her know you like her and see how she respond.

[MetallicAguy]

Yeah I get what your saying what could I do subtly to show my interest in her, I've tried it's not that I've gave up I've just ran out of ideas.

[MetallicAguy]

Well I tried checking her out and NOT looking away, I'll tell you what happened. So in class she walks by after getting help from the teacher, sits down and zips up her sweater she notices me looking at her in her peripheral vision and then after noticing me (zipper is pretty much all the way up) she zips it halfway to where her boobs show. This mean anything? Oh yeah and she was first to look away so that's good I don't seem to be a weenie that way lol.

[FuriousSam]

Have you have any conversations with her? You can show interest in her by word play.

[greenie35]

I would definitely try making eye contact. If she catches you looking at her smile at her or look down and smile. There's nothing wrong with appearing a little shy. It can be a bit of turn on. The key is to make sure she sees you checking her out.

[DropToZero]

Haha, don't take so much seriousness into little actions like zippers and a little cleavage. Sure it ...could mean something...but I wouldn't make any judgements or actions based on it. I just have two words for you on all this 'nervousness' you seem to have around the girl you like...STOP CARING....I know it sounds hard to think about. But you're running every bad possibility of what could happen thru your mind instead of all the good things. You have to talk and flirt and show confidence.

 

With that nervousness you have, you're probably talking fast, and shakin a little..maybe sweating....but you have to stop caring what she thinks of you. The more you care, the more you WILL screw up b/c you're showing that you're insecure in your actions and are afraid of what she might think if you do something stupid. You're coming off as unconfident b/c of this too....just stop caring so much.