helbby12 Posted January 8, 2005 Share Posted January 8, 2005 geez i dont know im still unsure about it tho...what if he gets all disgusted or something!!!!! im scared! Link to comment
confuzedboy89 Posted January 8, 2005 Share Posted January 8, 2005 well if he's been with you for 6 months he's deffintly attracted to you and he won;t mind an attractive girl kissing him. stop worrying about it and just for it. you'll be glad you got it over with. Link to comment
helbby12 Posted January 8, 2005 Share Posted January 8, 2005 i know but its the fact of getting there! thats what im having trouble with...one the first kiss is over i think ill be fine but how can i get there?!?! Link to comment
confuzedboy89 Posted January 8, 2005 Share Posted January 8, 2005 even though it seems hard now and your nervous, just go for the kiss and get it over with. Link to comment
helbby12 Posted January 8, 2005 Share Posted January 8, 2005 it sounds easy now but with im with him it will be impossible! what can i do to overcome this fear?! thanks for all your help so far! you've been giving me some awesome help! Link to comment
confuzedboy89 Posted January 8, 2005 Share Posted January 8, 2005 just stop worrying that he doesn't wanna kiss you. if ur really normal just try talking 2 him, so he'll expect it Link to comment
helbby12 Posted January 8, 2005 Share Posted January 8, 2005 but the point is that im scared to make the first move and dont know what to do! i wanna kiss him but i think ill chicken out and i dont know if we will ever kiss! Link to comment
confuzedboy89 Posted January 8, 2005 Share Posted January 8, 2005 you'll eventually kiss him but the longer you wait the more nervous you'll get. i would just get it over with. Link to comment
helbby12 Posted January 8, 2005 Share Posted January 8, 2005 well that sounds logical! its just the fact of doing it i think we are getting together tomorrow so i might just try it and see what happens.....if i can work up the nerves Link to comment
Amethyst Posted January 8, 2005 Share Posted January 8, 2005 You know what? If you aren't ready, then you aren't ready. You're putting so much pressure on yourself that you might just make your fears into self-fulfilling prophecies. (You'll be so sure that things will go badly that you'll practically *make* them go badly.) If it's that big a problem for you, then maybe you don't need to be kissing him at all. You have your whole life to kiss guys...there's no need to rush. Link to comment
helbby12 Posted January 8, 2005 Share Posted January 8, 2005 im ready to kiss him im just super nervous! i understnad the whole thing about making it bad thats a good point...how should i "go in" tomorrow when we are together? Link to comment
confuzedboy89 Posted January 8, 2005 Share Posted January 8, 2005 just act normal and be yourself until you 2 are alone in a private place so that you have time to kiss him. Then just think of something to get him to stare into your eyes and while he's doing that go up for a kiss. after a short kiss move away and see what his reaction is. If he wanted to be kissed he might kiss you back. Link to comment
Amethyst Posted January 8, 2005 Share Posted January 8, 2005 Yeah, but that's my point. You've spent 8 pages talking about how nervous you are and how you just don't have the nerve to kiss him. That's not just nerves -- that's fear. If you're so afraid of kissing him that you have to be reassured on every little thing, then you're not ready to kiss him. Trust me, I know what I'm talking about. Jitters is one thing -- completely terrified is something else. Like I said, don't rush into this stuff. I can tell from your posts that you're young. You have your entire life to get into kissing and stuff. When you're *ready* to kiss the guy, you won't have to ask questions. You won't have to be reassured. You may be nervous, but you'll be able to just *do* it. Please, seriously consider what I'm saying, because it doesn't sound as though you're anywhere near ready to take this step. Link to comment
helbby12 Posted January 8, 2005 Share Posted January 8, 2005 thanks for all y'alls help..ill let yall know what happens tomorrow...i gotta sleep on this tho to make up my mind Link to comment
Amethyst Posted January 8, 2005 Share Posted January 8, 2005 Please do let us know how things turn out... Link to comment
confuzedboy89 Posted January 8, 2005 Share Posted January 8, 2005 k, i hope everything goes good 2morrow. good luck. tell us how it goes. Link to comment
helbby12 Posted January 8, 2005 Share Posted January 8, 2005 surly.. thanks so much for all the help! Link to comment
helbby12 Posted January 8, 2005 Share Posted January 8, 2005 wish me luck going over to his house in a lil while...will post after with an update!!! Link to comment
helbby12 Posted January 9, 2005 Share Posted January 9, 2005 wow that was awesome! I went over to his house (me him and another couple) and we watched a movie and cuddled on the couch…didn't kiss during the movie though…I was still really nervous about making the move… after the movie we sat there and talked and were trying to figure out what to do next…then he grabbed my hand and walked me into the other room…he kissed me! I didn't even have to worry about initiating it! YAY!! it was great too…I just followed what he did and then we kissed for a little while and then went back into the other room and played pool! and then he took me home and gave me a goodnight kiss! it was great! yay I'm soo excited! next time I think we will take it to the next level so do yall have any advice on how to use tongue when we kiss!?!?! Link to comment
confuzedboy89 Posted January 9, 2005 Share Posted January 9, 2005 hmm....i not really to good on that but read this [ link removed Link to comment
Amethyst Posted January 9, 2005 Share Posted January 9, 2005 I'm not trying to be a stick in the mud, but I really do think you're rushing it. Yesterday, you didn't even think you could kiss him; today, you want to take it to the "next level"??? Why don't you give both of you a chance to get used to *this* level before you up the ante? BTW: Out of curiosity, how old are the two of you? Link to comment
helbby12 Posted January 9, 2005 Share Posted January 9, 2005 confusedboy--thanks that helps alot! amethyst--the kisses just felt right and im comfy with it now! we will still kiss but i wanna be prepared when we do move on. btw 14 and 16 Link to comment
Amethyst Posted January 9, 2005 Share Posted January 9, 2005 All I'll say is that, at 14, you don't need to even *think* of going beyond kissing. Link to comment
helbby12 Posted January 9, 2005 Share Posted January 9, 2005 hah i think u misunderstood...i mean using tongue! sorry i was a lil unclear! definitely not that far! Link to comment
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