She's confusing me(mixed signals) or very naive??

[C-A]

Hey what's up all?! I've been here a couple of times but never posted anything but here's my first question which I hope you guys can give me a little insight and input on what's up?

 

Background:

Let's call the girl 'Mandy'. Well, before I got to know Mandy, she always have stared at me everytime when I notice it. I ignored it since I've got other priorities in mind. Mandy and her friends stared at me too and could it be judgemental stare? But since they are smiling I thought there was nothing wrong with it. I also began to notice that she's always in my field of vision when Im outside class just socializing with friends.

 

Details:

After a few months, I kind of got curious about this girl that I never paid attention to before. I started to talk to her and she seems very charismatic and I think she's charismatic to everyone too. She's just full of joy. Anyways, she likes asking alot of questions to me and asking me why I did not or when do I take the bus and all that, etc.. She practically wanted to know everything about me. She never disagreed with me. Everytime I see her, she smiles and says hi and tries to make a conversation. The staring from her alone and also when she's with her friends from a distance kept getting more frequent and also her presense in my field of vision. Mandy just pops-out of nowhere.

 

So I assumed, this girl likes me or have a crush on me. So I decided to get to know more about her. Now, I decided to get to know her too.

 

Now, everytime I pursue her, she tends to get nervous and stressed. She doesnt ask me questions anymore. Once, I initiated a short conversation and ask her a simple question about if wether she's going to class then she just left for no reason. She still stares from a distance but tends to avoid to be near me but she still says hi and smile when she has no choice to avoid me.

 

When Im not paying attention, ignoring her or not pursuing her, she tries to make her presense felt by any means to get my attention. Dropping pens in front of me and smiles, talking loud, turning around to stare at me and smile.

 

I assume she's just very friendly to everyone and generally very charismatic person so I kind of let it drift away and not concentrate on it. But it's hard to just cancel out the signals she gave before.

 

Finally, I saw her outside school but she talks more to her friend than to me. She didn't let me in the conversation, I had to jump in myself. At the end she's trying to get away from me again by saying bye and fleeing away but I asked her number for the reason of getting in touch during the summer, she got her pen and paper wrote it down quickly.

 

Im thinking of asking her out next week but I have no idea if she's just being very nice and friendly to me as in friends only and doesn't like me at all or likes me in a romantic way.

 

Input are very much appreciated because-me-is-confuse! Is she that naive??

 

It's just I never encountered such situation in my past experiences with girls I liked.

 

Regards,

C-A

[chilly]

hmmm... i think the girl maybe does like you she juz dosent no wot she wants at d moment. so juz leave her alone n if she really does like you she'll come to u herslef

[C-A]

Can anyone else give me their thoughts on this?

[Xtasy]

You know, just recently I had a similar problem. Mine was with a girl named....let's say Jill? Anyway, Jill showed interest in me at first, after talking to her for about 3 weeks, she began trying to avoid me, this was soon after I had asked her to a movie, anyway, if I was around she ALWAYS seemed like she was in a hurry. I was getting mixed signals, as you are. So, the best advice I could give you.....is to just go straight up to her, face to face, do NOT write note, that just shows you didn't have the balls to ask her face to face. ANYWAY, go right up to her, if she is in a group of friends, ask her if you could have a minute of her time, and just up and ask her if she has any interest in you. Personally, when I did this, the girl had said, "Not as a boyfriend." thereforeeeeee, I continued talking. She is more comfortable around me now, and we are friends. Just if it does backfire and she says she doesn't like you as a boyfriend, don't stop talking to her. Make a friend out of the situation. Anyway. I hope this helps, just remember, face to face, not a note. I also understand that rejection is hard to deal with, but this is a case that you have to know. Your either making an idiot out of yourself, or your not. Good Luck man.

[jl_gal]

I think that gal likes you but she is a shy kind. She just want to be at her best when you are around .So when you make your move to talk to her she must be unprepared thereforeeeeee she just make excuses to leave. however if she approaches you she must have prepared herself to think of some witty things to say to make you think she is such a cool girl. My advice is tried to give her sometime to let her feel comfortable with you.

[C-A]

Thanks for the replies, Xtsay and jl_gal. Im not gonna put pressure on her or whatsover, Im gonna take it easy and make her feel comfortable around me but I know it wont be easy masking my real feelings. But I as soon as the situation seems stable and fine, I'll let her know my feelings.

[Santa]

I believe girls shouldnt change like that - if you like someone, then you shouldn't act negativly abit later on - that only confuses males like me, and stuff. Whats the point in doing that?

Maybe shes like embaressed now you are finally tlaking to her. I've known girls to act negativly, cuz they like you but dont want to show it - hey i even do it sometimes, as a mask to show my true feelings... Sad i know, and i hate myself for doing it, but its the easy way of getting out of a situation IMO, and so i take it. I recon she could be like this, but i say ask her. Good luck

[Turboz]

ask her if you could have a minute of her time, and just up and ask her if she has any interest in you. Personally, when I did this, the girl had said, "Not as a boyfriend."

 

Hmm and you wonder why you are now just friends? - Did you never understand that women don't like the direct "Do I stand a chance with you or not?" approach?

 

Look at Cats and Mice - Do you ever see a cat ask a mouse "Can I eat you tonight or is it not convenient?" - Scr*w that the cat just gives chase and does it's thing.

 

Thats what the dating game is about too. Don't worry about it and especially don't do the "Honest about feelings" thing before you even have a relationship with her or she could end up thinking that you are some obsessive freak of some sort.