whathappensnext Posted December 5, 2004 Share Posted December 5, 2004 Ok i have decided to stop cutting but i have decided this along time ago. My problem is i can't stop. I mean there would be times i would stop for a month,but then i would start agian. And lately i have been doing it more often and deeper. so any advice would help. Link to comment
Scout Posted December 5, 2004 Share Posted December 5, 2004 First, I am relieved you realize this is a hurtful practice that you simply can't continue to keep doing. The hard part is that if you feel you really can't quit, you need to go to someone now and talk to them. What about a counselor at school? Link to comment
whathappensnext Posted December 5, 2004 Author Share Posted December 5, 2004 well i really don't want anyone to know about it. i mean some friends know but i can't bring it up to them right now. Link to comment
KMSHoney2005 Posted December 5, 2004 Share Posted December 5, 2004 that's great that you've decided not cut so much, but it's bad that you're still continuing on. i've surprisingly started it myself. why?? i really can't say. i've always been one to think how stupid it was and so pointless. and then i did it. i scared myself really. it wasn't bad. i kind of liked it. i've done it once and i might do it again. i am currently talking to people (couselor at school and out of school). it doesn't help. i need more than just that. i understand what you mean that you don't want anyone to know. i even haven't told any ONE. no one knows except now you. what i suggest you ought to do is to find out what you TRULY need to help you get out of this. if there might be something you need to change at all. no matter how drastic the change might be, if it may help at all, then i think you ought to take it into consideration. just thinking that things'll get better, doesn't work. i myself have a change. i haven't taken it yet. but as the days go by... the change sounds more and more convincing to help me stay alive. stay strong. Link to comment
ticklebug Posted December 5, 2004 Share Posted December 5, 2004 just like any obsession, you can't stop it on your own...you NEED to get professional help. A counselor is not going to judge you or make you feel bad about it...they are in the profession they are in to HELP people. If you truly want to stop...you need to find the courage to admit to a person, not just an internet group...what you have been doing to yourself. Keep in mind something, everyone on this internet group...is still a person behind the computer screen...if we aren't judging you...a live body right next to you won't either. Link to comment
whathappensnext Posted December 5, 2004 Author Share Posted December 5, 2004 wow 1st thanks KMSHoney2005 for both the advice and for confiding in me. 2nd thanks ticklebug but i don't really want professional help and eventually i might seek help from my friends but theres to much going on with them right now. Link to comment
Desired1 Posted December 8, 2004 Share Posted December 8, 2004 you guys that don't cut or SI don't realize how hard it is to stop. Also I wouldn't dare tell anyone either. A lot of the time people have a portrayed image of people that SI as a mental or delirous person that is found in a straight jacket. But it's quite the opposite. Generally we don't tell people unless they ask and we dont' wanna lie to them because we care for them so much or we are scared that we will be drugged up or sent away. I personally would not trust anybody or even tell anybody about my SI. Link to comment
whathappensnext Posted December 9, 2004 Author Share Posted December 9, 2004 Desired1 thanks i think there is alot of people who feel that wa ymyself being one of them. Link to comment
Cynder Posted December 12, 2004 Share Posted December 12, 2004 Maybe admitting it will help you stop. I stopped cutting because I promised my husband I wouldn't do it anymore. I had to admit to him that I did it before I could make this promise. Link to comment
shorty4ever15 Posted December 12, 2004 Share Posted December 12, 2004 I don't know whether this will help or not, but it a try to maybe help you understand it a little more. These are some quotes from a TV show including cutting.... "And what's bizarre is that I'm always gonna be a cutter. Even if I don't do it for years it's still me." (some1 else) "Well that sucks." "It just, it just is. It doesn't matter how I feel or how anyone else feels." It then goes on to talk about acceptance and how if you can accept yourself--then just maybe you can work through it all. Link to comment
whathappensnext Posted December 13, 2004 Author Share Posted December 13, 2004 thanks guys i can kinda admit it when i'm talking to friends online. But the subject doesn't really come up. Its not really a "happy" subject you know what i mean. Link to comment
Finchabald Posted December 21, 2004 Share Posted December 21, 2004 have you spoken to a counsellor they can give u good advice about how to stop Link to comment
whathappensnext Posted December 22, 2004 Author Share Posted December 22, 2004 no i have not i don't want a bunch of people to know i'm doing it and its not easy to stop. Link to comment
ticklebug Posted December 22, 2004 Share Posted December 22, 2004 what, cutting is a form of OCD, obsessive compulsive disorder. It is a need to control the pain in your life, in a certain way, every time there is pain, regardless of the form. Other people with an OCD may need to ensure that when they wash their hands, it's done a certain way each time, or have a need for their vegetable to not touch their meat on the plate at dinner...it's an uncontrollable urge to control something... the longer you do it, the harder it is to stop, or control, yourself, and in most cases, you DO need help from a professional...because what is going on with you has to do with the chemicals in your brain...and how some aren't producing enough, and some are producing too much...and sometimes all it takes is some medication temporarily, to get your body functioning normally & a little bit of counseling to help you find other ways to vent your pain. bottom line of it is, it isn't your "fault" you are doing it, it is nothing to be ashamed of and it is a fixable problem... if you get the flu, you go to the doctor to get medication to make yourself feel better, if you break your arm, you get a cast on it while it heals...you need to treat your brain the same way...it's "sick and/or broken" and you need to get the proper care for it. Link to comment
whathappensnext Posted December 22, 2004 Author Share Posted December 22, 2004 yeah thanks but people might think i'm doing it for attention. and i'm not like that. I don't want to disappoint anyone. I don't really talk about it much. Link to comment
ticklebug Posted December 22, 2004 Share Posted December 22, 2004 hun, not if you talk to the right people...and in the right way...they won't see it as an "attention" thing...the right people are a counselor at school, a good teacher or your parents... it's scary to take the first step in helping yourself, it's like standing on the diving board ready to jump for the first time...but once you do...you have gotten it over with and it won't hve to be done again. Link to comment
Finchabald Posted December 22, 2004 Share Posted December 22, 2004 people wont think ur doing it for attention. not the right ppl anyway. a counsellor is there to help you through a problem and cutting is a problem. Link to comment
thisisnotanexit Posted December 22, 2004 Share Posted December 22, 2004 yes, i promise you. people don't immediately think its for attention. i deal with the same fears, but i promise you..people will surprise you. they honestly do want to help you. so please take that extra step, you do need help and help is out there! we're all here for you too. take care and please look at this link removed Link to comment
whathappensnext Posted December 23, 2004 Author Share Posted December 23, 2004 thanks guys but i can't say to my mom, mom i'm a cutter. I just can't and i believe the counselor will tell my parents or something. And i don't really have someone to talk to about it. Don't get me wrong i want to stop,but its just not working.And latly i've been doing it more and more.I'm kinda scared. Link to comment
ticklebug Posted December 23, 2004 Share Posted December 23, 2004 you have to talk to someone, it is the only way... and if you can't tell your mom - then it is good that a counselor will say something for you... but really, the best approach is to just walk up to your mom...and all you have to do is show her your scars and say...help. Link to comment
whathappensnext Posted December 23, 2004 Author Share Posted December 23, 2004 i don't want her to feel bad and blam it on herself because although i got mad at my family and friends and did it. Its all my fault. And she might feel bad cuz she never noticed and realise she doesn't pay attention to me. Link to comment
ticklebug Posted December 23, 2004 Share Posted December 23, 2004 what, I'm a mom, and sometimes, my kids need to give me a wake up call on things I don't notice. We'd like to thik we are the all knowing all powerful all seeing creatures just because we hve kids, and although sometimes we seem like we have eyes in the back of our heads and know what you are up to just by looking at you...we really don't. We are just good guessers cuz we were kids once. She may very well blame herself at first...but that is what the counseling you are going to get (and the therapist will talk to her too) will help you deal with... we, as parents, blame ourselves because we love you kids, so incredibly much. It will hurt her more and upset her more if you let this go on, and then you end up hurting yourself to a point you can't recover. You will make her day as a parent if you go to her and ask for help...she will know you feel like you can come to her - and that is a big time parent good feeling. Link to comment
whathappensnext Posted December 23, 2004 Author Share Posted December 23, 2004 i want to and believe me i've been thinking about it. I'm just not sure if i'm ready to tell her. Link to comment
unexpectedvictim57 Posted December 23, 2004 Share Posted December 23, 2004 i know exactly how you are feeling..... i could never walk up to my mom and ask for hel and tell her about me ctting........ if you do end uo going..... you are a brave soul and i admire you...... but if you do not..... i would not say anything against you....... its hard i can't believe one day i might ahve to make that choice..... Link to comment
whathappensnext Posted December 23, 2004 Author Share Posted December 23, 2004 wow thanks for understanding. It helps alot if someone knows what your going through. I'm not saying noone else does just saying that your the only one i think that has said you do. Link to comment
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