separated but kids dont know. How to deal with contact and win her back

[keivn]

my wife and i recently separated but the kids dont know cause she is not sure. I want her back and every thread suggests that there should be no contact. How do I deal with that as I see my kids every 2 weeks at the house. I work in a different state so week days are ok. Any advise.

[mhowe]

When you are there, deal with kid issues only. You aren't enemies --- you just need time apart. How old are the kids?

[emma34]

I think the N/C rule typically applies to regular break ups...kids make things a lot more complicated and there isn't a blanket rule for this sort of thing. We need more information to offer advice...but if you want her back, you'll need to work on that...only you can be sure what the right move is..

[keivn]

they are 10 and 14. she says she isnt in love with me but loves me. we have been married for 17 years. 3 years ago she liked someone i forgave her and she stayed now feels she needs to separate to see if it can work. how do i work on it.