whes Posted November 28, 2011 Share Posted November 28, 2011 Hello everyone, So I've got this friend. He's 29, finishing off the last semester of a diploma course that will hopefully help him get his permanent residency (he's originally from the UK) so that he can apply for the police service. He applied a few years ago, but was rejected on a few inane details, probably mostly because they had enough recruits and didn't want to hire an international at the time. So he went about trying to get his permanent residency in order to try again. He feels like he's made a lot of poor life decisions, and there isn't a lot in his life that he's very happy about or that is under his control. His life is not where he ever imagined it would be, nor is it what he wants it to be. And there isn't much he can do but tough it out and wait until opportunities start opening up for him. Before this semester at school, none of this bothered him so much. He's normally not so depressed about everything. It's all just gotten a little overwhelming for him. He's also upset that he doesn't have a girlfriend, yet goes out on a million dates and always finds reasons for not liking them. I strongly suspect this is connected to his confidence levels. I would love to date him and I think he's interested in me too, but really isn't in a place to be in a relationship. He's too much in his own life, dealing with his own things. I also get the impression that he's a bit intimidated by me. I'm applying for the police force too and though on paper we're both ideal candidates, I've been having an easier go of it than he did. He seems to be under a lot of pressure and criticism from a lot of different people. I know at the end of the day this is going to be something he has to deal with on his own, but is there something more that I can do to help him get there? Not directly, but in small ways that will boost his confidence little by little? I'd like more than anything to help him feel less like a failure. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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