Angel Irulan Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 From my title I think you can see that this might be a bit hard to explain, but please bear with me. I have a friend whom I've had for about ten years online that I now wonder about. I am a bit afraid of this pal, because when I hear who is supposed to have done wrong, I always get this little "dump this person now before they do this to you" vibe. And these are all online friends, she hasn't met them in real life, and they have a falling out and then my friend is telling ALL of her other friends about what happened. I really don't like this scenario, particularly when there is a name attached. I don't believe it's anyone else's business. When there is any disagreement she tends to get overly angry and complains bitterly. I think that might have actually furthered any ill will or bad feeling towards her from the others, and she winds up in a fight. As her friend I sometimes get dragged into the middle of it, there are a few sites that we share and have for years. I tend to be a minimalist, when it comes to conflict, I take the high road whenever possible, and think that this works well for me, as I wind up with fewer enemies and I don't have the angry vanquished enemy out there waiting to do harm to me. My friend uses another tactic: she fights and then gets everyone to agree with her and makes sure that her enemy, former friend, is on the outs with everyone. I cry at the thought that something could trigger a fight between us and she might do this to me! In real life, once I realized that someone does this to others, I would guess it's only a matter of time that they would do that to me. I'd be cutting ties all over the place! What would you do in my place with this online pal? Angel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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