beachgrl Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 Hello, I have a boyfriend whom I have been with for 4 months. He does kind of weird things. When I don't show him alot of attention, back off a little, he is complementing me all the time calling me his "model girlfriend" "beautiful", etc. Well, when I am insecure, he does things that upset me. He claims he is just playing around, but I feel he is insecure too, and trying to get a reaction. He sees some girl on TV, and says that she is really cute. Then another girl, he will call his "fantasy girlfriend" then when I give this reaction, he says I am being ridiculous and that its not like he will ever even see her. But why do that? am I over-reacting??](*,) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pumpkinmoon Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 I think sometimes it's the way things are said rather than what is said. He probably does it all the more because he knows it bothers you. Next time I would either take no notice or agree with him just to see his reaction. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beachgrl Posted June 15, 2011 Author Share Posted June 15, 2011 Yeah, I know he knows exactly how to push my buttons. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pumpkinmoon Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 Chances are if you show him it doesn't bother you he will eventually stop doing it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tresqua Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 Play the game better than him. When he comments on a cute guy in TV, say "That's cool, last time we 'did it' I was fantasizing about your brother". Or something like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pumpkinmoon Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 Play the game better than him. When he comments on a cute guy in TV, say "That's cool, last time we 'did it' I was fantasizing about your brother". Or something like that. LOL! That should do it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZeldaB Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 I've been there, very early in my relationship with current my fiance use to do this because he thought it was "cute" when i got jelous. After several heated agruements about it I decided it was just a waste of engry to get mad everytime he mentioned a girl on tv or the street so I stopped reacting. Eventually he stopped, stating it wasn't fun or cute if I didn't get mad. I honestly think it was an ego boost for him, the best reaction is no reaction. A "thats nice honey" and shrug work for me . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beachgrl Posted June 15, 2011 Author Share Posted June 15, 2011 I've been there, very early in my relationship with current my fiance use to do this because he thought it was "cute" when i got jelous. After several heated agruements about it I decided it was just a waste of engry to get mad everytime he mentioned a girl on tv or the street so I stopped reacting. Eventually he stopped, stating it wasn't fun or cute if I didn't get mad. I honestly think it was an ego boost for him, the best reaction is no reaction. A "thats nice honey" and shrug work for me . I know for a fact he does it to get a reaction, because he laughs when i get mad. Nice. But yeah, when you stop reacting, its not fun for them anymore. Makes sense. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xiRoCb294 Posted June 17, 2011 Share Posted June 17, 2011 I think it's pretty disrespectful that he enjoys getting a rise out of you for your insecurities, but that's just my opinion. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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