"I don't see myself with anyone anymore"

[djquest]

Hi,

 

I need some advice. i hope this is the right place.

 

me and this girl went on a date. this was the first time we met as he saw each other on the net. she knows that i like her before we even met coz we talk on the phone and on msn.

 

The date:

 

I was supposed to meet her around 12.45 near the golden jubliee bridge. and well she got lost on how to get there so she calls me up and says i am sorry i got lost coz i am excited to see you coz i really like you. i said i know, i like u too. we met up and ai gave her a rose and when i saw her i thought wow, she is just perfect.

 

we started to walk and decided well have an ice cream she said she was not hungry but so we brought one and shared it. it was funny coz we kept on looking at each other in the eyes and would laugh and giggle and flirt. all was going well.

 

I thought lets do the standard an watch a movie, we started to watch a movie and instead of grabbin her hand, i asked her politly if i could hold her hand coz i did not want to make her feel uncomfortable. and it was all good. we watched the film and then walked to a park, talking about little things u know to make converstation and flirting and stuff.

 

we got to the park we both sat down and held hands and talked about us and it was all good, i started to like play with her hand and she liked that. and we where both starting to look into each others eyes longer and started smiling and stuff.

 

She could not stay for long as she had to go somewhere with her parents. i told her i drop her off close to home, she was like no i don't have to but i insisted and she was happy that i did. we started to walk toward the platform and stuff and we just held hands coz it felt natural and very comfortable. i my head i thought it felt like we are a couple but obviously not yet. we talked about wat we may not like in our releationship and ironed out little things. just a brief thing, like our age she is 17 soon to be 18 and i am 23, we decided age was nothing but a number. and everything was ok. ew talked on the way to her stop and came to the conclusion we both kinda liked each other.

 

Just before she left, i held her hand, and looked into her eyes and smiled. And said i am scared and she said the same. we both hugged and i really really wanted to kiss her but from what i know of her she may feel uncomfortable. i care for her too much to make her feel like that. she went up the escalater and i waited for her to go up, hoping that she will turn around and give me the smile i wanted to see, that she likes or not and she did. i thought well happy as everything went so good.

 

i decided to pop into my old work place and she gave me a call stright away telling me that she has neva been treated like the way i treated her by any1 even her previous boyfriends were not like that. all they did was take but neva give back. she told me that some1 stole her rose wen she put it down near her house and she was very upset coz it meant a lot to her, coz i gave it to her and i was the only1 treating her as so.

 

at this point i thought this is great and felt extremely happy. neva felt like this in my life. and wen i went home. she came online we started chatting and all of a sudden wat she said to me made me extremly sad that i felt sick. so much that i could not sleep or eat for 2 days.

 

She said to me, " i don;t see myself being with anyone any more and said i am worried that i may hurt u"

 

I replied saying " the only way would hurt me is by not giving me a chance"

 

At this point i was shattered, coz the best day in my life just went shattered and broke like a piece of glass.

 

Now she won't pick up the phone, answer any text msgs and has me blocked on msn. i really like this girl and i know that she is the one for me and i know she feels the same. but it hink she is scared that i may hurt her coz 1 month earlier she broke up wid her ex.

 

From wat i know of her, i already have feeling for her before i met her. i love her personility and well the looks aswell after i met her. i really don;t know wat to do. coz i really want her bad and some how prove to her that she will neva get hurt again, coz i will take her pain as best as i can.

 

Please help, sorry about the long long detailed letter. i want her to give me the chance and not get scared. i really want to be able to love her and give her everthing that i can possbile have to offer.

if i can't have her then i don't really feel like being with anyone any more.

 

look forward from you response

[DanRockstar]

Sounds like you had a fairly perfect date

 

Sounds to me like she's still on the rebound from the first date, and maybe she doesn't want to rush into things, give her time, if she does have similar feelings for you, like you have for her, she'll come back into your life when she's ready.

 

I know how you're feeling when it feels one-sided at points, you just have to wait it out, best wishes

 

Dan

[1Adam12]

I would just wait it out..I think its like the previous poster said she is probably on the rebound from her last bf.

 

Do you still talk to her on a regular basis if so try to talk to her about how she's doing and what not but mainly you just gotta give her time I think you had a very good date and I think she likes you but more than likely has stuff she needs to get straightened out before she can get back out there again..

 

Good luck keep us posted

Phillip

[djquest]

hi, i started to chat to her, which good, she says she is not ready to meet up yet. so i told her she got all da time in da world. i really miss her but i guess i have to wait and find out. wish me best n pray it goes well.

 

i keep u up lot up to date.

 

cheers for da advice