Computer Geek Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 Hello all, Recently a friend of mine has been going through some troubled times. I don't know what it is exactly, and therein lies one of my issues. A few weeks ago she seemed sad about something, and when I asked what was up she said "long story, don't worry about it". So I left it at that. The next day she asked if I would go to Church with her. This was a very strange request since I had never known her to ever go to Church in her life and also because I am not exactly known to be going to Church. I asked if everything was alright, but she said she doesn't know how to explain it, she is just sad. Unfortunately I could not go that night as I didn't know what reason she wanted to go and I had prior commitments. Knowing something was up I asked a mutual friend if he knew anything about what she is going through. He didn't know, and must have asked her later since she messaged me and said "I know you asked so-and-so about me, don't worry, I'll be fine". This irks me. She trusts me enough to ask me to go to Church with her (something really out of the blue), but not enough to talk about what is going on? She did something very similar before as well, where she was upset about something so we met and talked but never talked about what was bothering her. In fact, that time at the end she said "By the way, that thing that was bothering me doesn't bother me anymore, I'm good". I'm getting this feeling like she is a very personal person (nothing wrong with that), and doesn't like to talk about those things with others, but sees opportunity to use those situations to spend some time with me. So twofold: 1) I feel upset that she would trust me enough to ask me to join her at Church but not enough to actually talk about what's wrong. 2) I feel like she uses these situations to spend time with me, which is quite disrespectful. Am I wrong for feeling like this? Link to comment
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