needing help to start talking to a girl.

[pheonix_r]

i get on the bus in the morning and there is a girl who is always on her own. im really interested in her but i cant seem to talk to her.

 

any ideas on how i can start talking to her.

 

Thanks

 

Stephen.

[birdie0013]

Well, start off with a very general question or statement. A simple "hello" would do. Sit closer to her than usual. If she makes eye contact, or smiles back, or says hello back with some sort of gesture (eye contact, smile, etc.), ask a general question. This would be like "So, where is it you go every morning? If you don't mind me asking." If she answers this with no hesitation, move on to something else.

The thing to remember is gradual steps. Don't rush right in with "How's your sex life?" or something personal like that. If you take the time to know her, it'll work out better.

[Derek]

"Hi there, I notice we're on the same bus alot and I was curious about you, my name is _____, what's yours?". (with a friendly smile)

 

It matters more how you say it than what you say at first...

 

 

 

[pheonix_r]

hmmm yes , but how can i get the guts to initialize talking to her. i mean im quite shy.

 

stephen.

[Derek]

The same way you get the guts to jump off the high diving board into the pool.

 

Mentally trick yourself into thinking it's safe...

 

Pretend you've already done it before.

 

Pretend you already know her.

Pretend she's been your friend a long while.

Pretend she's someone else, to get over the first bit.

 

 

 

[pheonix_r]

k so shall i say this.

 

"excuse me, hi hmmm i was wondering if you knew if they had changed the timetable for the 339 (i know they have but it starts of a convo)"

 

if she sez yes, ill say:

 

"good , for a minute there i thought the busses around here were terrible."

 

if she laughs ill say :

 

"sorry i must seem rude, allow me to introduce myself my name is stephen"

 

if she sez her name:

 

"so ******* (name here) what do you do, do you work or go to uni????

 

..........

 

what do you lot think will this work.

 

Stephen.

[birdie0013]

Very good.....tell us how it goes!