NEED QUICK ADVICE-Final talk with ex and I need advice

[adb72]

Here's the concise version of what's going on... and I need advice today!!

 

My girlfriend and I "broke up" in February. We stayed together basically as if nothing had changed. I took this as a sign that maybe we could work things out. But a month ago, suddenly, she started really pulling away. Now, we talk maybe twice a week and I've only seen her once in 3 weeks. Obviously something has changed again.

 

I still love her, but realize that I have to let go. She doesn't feel the same way anymore. After work today, I'm talking to her to finalize everything... ask the questions that have been bothering me and vent some of my sadness and frustrations before a period of No Contact.

 

Here's my dilemma:

 

Of course I'd love to be back with her. What, if any, are some basic guidelines as to what to say and what NOT to say? I know... no begging and whatnot. I'm not going there. We're just saying goodbye for now. I'm meeting her after work today and I'm using this time to prepare myself mentally for what I know is going to be a painful and emotional experience. Any advice on what to say or how to phrase things is greatly appreciated!!

[tristesse]

I think you shoudl tell her how you feel about her but Also you want show her that you respect her decison even if you do not agree with it.... and that if she thinks that's what she wants then you are ready to move on.... You can lether know it would be hard but that if she doesn't think you are the one... then u understand. Leave it to that.... Try to not show u're in a lot of pain!

But make sure to let her know how u feel (keeping your emotions togethere)... you need to get it all out in order to get your closure... ask her your questions and all and if she asks if u can stay friends... tell her you will need some time first.... and start the NC rules!

Good luck to u

we will all think of you

[DragonGirl724]

well,

 

id say dont be crying dont get over emotional. be confident & try to stay cool. speak from the heart but dont make her feel guilty or pressured. but say what u feel b/c otherwise ur gonna regret it lata. she is prolly distancing herself b/c she feels this breakup isnt a breakup & thats what she wanted in the first place. so dont take offense as to her becoming more & more distant b/c it IS a breakup. see how things go & jus dont cry in front of her. go into it expecting the worst. itll lead to less disappointment later. good luck

 

-DG724

[lunatic]

Here is what I would do. Ask any questions that you have and remember that you MAY not want to hear the answers. I have always ended all my relationships the way they started with a kiss and a hug. Don't get emotional too much because it shows weakness(you don't want to be a doormat). Go there and speak your mind and ask any questions that you are dying to know. Just remember that when you leave her this time it is putting the times you had together behind you forever. So make it count and hold it together till you leave her company.

 

This is going to be tough but, if I can do it anyone can.

 

Hold tight and stand your ground!

 

 

 

hubman