So, the ex messaged me

[aldridal]

"How's it going? It's been a while. You graduating soon?"

 

Pretty simple. Thing is, we broke up over a year ago after she cheated on me. I'm not with this wonderful girl, and don't want to be dishonest by carrying on a conversation with her.

 

On one hand, I want to respond with just a simple, "Life is amazing, I couldn't ask for more!" and then leave it at that.

 

On the other hand, I don't even know if I should respond.

 

What would you intelligent individuals do?

[Sarati]

If she was a wonderful girl, she would NOT have cheated on you. I would ignore her. Don't respond. She hurt you once, sacrificed your relationship to have her fun. It appears she thinks she can manipulate you, because somehow, you still call her a "wonderful girl", though she broke your heart. Don't respond, because to do so would be to give away your personal power, AND open a door, signaling an invitation for her to come be part of your life and, thus, hurt you again. Not worth it. Don't enter into dialogue with someone who deceived you.

[CaptainNapalm]

It shouldn't be what we would do but how you feel about your ex. If you want to start communication with her again then respond in honesty but if it's not someone you want in your life in any way then ignore her.

[aldridal]

If she was a wonderful girl, she would NOT have cheated on you. I would ignore her. Don't respond. She hurt you once, sacrificed your relationship to have her fun. It appears she thinks she can manipulate you, because somehow, you still call her a "wonderful girl", though she broke your heart. Don't respond, because to do so would be to give away your personal power, AND open a door, signaling an invitation for her to come be part of your life and, thus, hurt you again. Not worth it. Don't enter into dialogue with someone who deceived you.

 

That was actually a type-o, lol. I meant to say "i'm with this wonderful girl" (referring to my current lady). I don't think of my ex as wonderful. In fact, I think of her as a manipulative ****. I wouldn't trade my current gf for the world.

 

But point taken.

[CordelliaG]

I think he might have meant to write "I am now with this wonderful girl" and that that was a type-o, would make more sense in the context.

 

If that is the case, I would advise not responding, it's better for your new relationship.

[Sarati]

That was actually a type-o, lol. I meant to say "i'm with this wonderful girl" (referring to my current lady). I don't think of my ex as wonderful. In fact, I think of her as a manipulative ****. I wouldn't trade my current gf for the world.

 

But point taken.

 

LOL OK. Glad you are with a lovely lady now. Best of luck!

[mmmd]

If she was a wonderful girl, she would NOT have cheated on you. I would ignore her. Don't respond. She hurt you once, sacrificed your relationship to have her fun. It appears she thinks she can manipulate you, because somehow, you still call her a "wonderful girl", though she broke your heart. Don't respond, because to do so would be to give away your personal power, AND open a door, signaling an invitation for her to come be part of your life and, thus, hurt you again. Not worth it. Don't enter into dialogue with someone who deceived you.

 

 

boom. that's all there is.

 

don't respond.

[FrenchFries]

Ignore it.

[darth_vader]

You can do what I did to my ex. I contacted her only after she contacted me to get together as "friends". I then told her, I'm sorry, it just wouldn't be right to do that to my girl. After she said OK and hung up, that was the last time I heard from the ex.

HA HA HA..... PEACE!