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I moved to another state (I hr plane ride away, 12 hour drive) late December. I have only been home once since then but have come home for 5 days over Easter. I have been here 2 and have enjoyed spending time with my family and a couple of family friends. I recieved a few texts from a friend tonight basically saying 'Why didn't you tell me you were back?' and I could tell she wasn't pleased. My visit home wasn't a secret but I just hadn't made a point of telling everyone. I had hoped to catch up with this particular group of friends later in the week but it turns out that they are going away at the end of the week. I moved things around to see them tomorrow but a part of me feels a little annoyed.


I'm certainly not one of those people who moves away and the second they visit home expects everyone to drop their lives and see me- indeed I'm the opposite, if I can see people, great! If not, I also understand that. If they couldn't see me at the time that I was free I would not have minded at all.


I know that when you move away you can grow apart over time, so in a year I'll probably be cursing my lack of friends in my home town, but at this point, I just want a break to see my family. I don't want to come home to pressue to see everyone when I've barely yet seen my family. I haven't seen my 80 year old grandmother for 2 months, nor my 3 year old nephew. Seeing them is my priority so I don't think I should be made to feel guilty for not organising something with other friends ASAP.


This girl is an old work colleague, and someone I used to socialise with occasionally. My best friends I will see regardless- indeed they picked me up from the airport. I think it's great that people want to make the effort, but I also think I shouldn't be made to feel guilty if I don't see everyone or like it's a chore.



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