brian123 Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 I am a single 26 year old male with two BS degrees, an MS, and am working on my PhD in Computer Science. I have also worked full time for the last 4 years for a large company with great pay/benefits etc....I have a good family, good friends, good health, I like to think I am reasonably good looking. I am very fortunate in many ways and most people believe I am doing very well for myself. However, for the last 6-12 months I've felt like life is stale. I'm not talking about killing myself, or depression or anything like that, but it seems like life has lost alot of it's zeal. (On a side note, I went through a strange BU with my fiance ~4 months ago which I am still kind of coming out of in many ways). Everyday I come into work, it is not challenging and I spend more time on these forums than doing work (yet I still get pats on the back from my bosses). I guess a good way to describe me is like the main guy from office space. ~2 years ago, I was looking into joining the army reserves, I stopped when I met my ex. ~6 months ago I was looking at joining the national guard. I postponed that while I went through my strange BU ~1 month ago I began focusing on the Marines. Time is running out on all of these options. IDK, I feel like I have tons to be thankful for, but I just want more out of life. I do not feel overly challenged on a daily basis. For the last 2-3 weeks I met a girl and became infatuated with her (not stalking etc...) but she has always been on my mind. While I was focused on her, I thought "wow, who am I kidding, I'd never join the military." Now that Ive kind of moved on from her (she hasn't really reciprocated) I am again focusing on the military. It seems like in many ways, I jump from one grand idea to the next but never follow through with most of them. It seems like I need to focus on something. At 26, many of my friends are already married and have had kids, and I am still single. Quetions which I ask myself are "Do I focus more on finding a partner and settling down like everyone else, or should I use my youth to serve my country/experience life etc.... and maybe worrying about settling down later?" Anyone been in these shoes/have any advice? Link to comment
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