How to talk to girls

[JustChillin]

im kind of shy but i want to know what things to say or do to start a conversation. girls are usually into me because they think i look good but when they find out im shy they seem to not want to talk. so how can i change this

[neva_black_n_white]

hey.

i understand where your coming from, the aspect of finding you attractive and then not waiting around to see the real you.

in some sense im guessing that these girls are like this, because the conversation and spanning off is made from all there questions. just generally give of a fifty fifty helpind device. if you get what im saying.

 

and as for starters, i would say which probably seems weird, treat them as if there a lad if your more comfortable talking to lads, go with the flow and generally speak on the terms and ask questions on the basis of that with a male friend.

from then on and there after i feel that you would develop an idea if this is worth bringing into a relationship if that is what you are looking for, and you will be at the point hopefully where you are more open and frequent in speech.

hope this helps.

kel

[Nifty_Swifty1]

well, if you can get them to start talking to you, you're battle is almost over. Now you just need to find out how to keep them talking, and thats easy. Just keep talking back. Ask questions. It just takes some practice. I've been right where you are, and all you can do is to keep trying. What we tell you isn't going to help much. you have to learn from experiance.

[Abfchgirlx]

im kind of shy but i want to know what things to say or do to start a conversation. girls are usually into me because they think i look good but when they find out im shy they seem to not want to talk. so how can i change this

 

So you got a pic? JK.

 

Yeah, you just got to overcome you fear of being shy. Smile or wink at them. If you have questions for someone you like, talk to them about it. Talk to them about your day or the basic all topic conversation is "so how did your day go? What did you do today? Got any plans for later?" etc. etc.

[S4il]

lol above post, "got a Pic"

 

ok ok , I'm going to offer some advice, short and sweet, actually really short and sweet, since your scared of getting into a conversation with girl b/c your a shy guy, think of it like this "are you getting anywhere being shy".....................................um have you answered yes yet? Ok than change that, get some communication skills,

 

girls love to talk about the following:

 

there Friends 8)

Movies

Music

Food

Chocolate

 

 

Girls don't like to talk about the following:

 

Your car and how fast it goes

Your favorite sexual position

How many girls you've been with in the past year

yourself (bragging)

Terrorist

pornographic material

 

WOW ok listen the list is so much i can't type it all....just common sense what to talk about and what to avoid.

[Derek]

Hmm,

 

I think you might need to get by the idea that girls are somehow on a pedestal. They are not aliens, they have feelings and thoughts and interests the same as guys. Sure it may be a bit foreign, but they are as human as guys are.

 

Get to know what interests the ladies that are around you. Give an opinion about it, make it your own opinion that you have thought about.

Have some interests of your own to share back (but don't talk sports and cars all day, gotta have some give and take)

 

Talk about something universal, relationships, friends. Talk about being shy even. Why not? I bet they have been in the same boat sometimes too. Then you can just laugh about it and get by it.

 

Spend the energy to pay attention, REALLY pay attention, to those around you, so that you notice and give feedback on the little things, then when they notice you've noticed, they will be impressed.

 

Try this tip, every girl you meet, try to read and memorize the color of their eyes, this forces you to look in their eyes a bit more than normal.

Memorizing their name is usually smart too.

 

Another exercise for shyness is to force yourself to look in the eyes of everyone you pass on the sidewalk/streets. (you don't know them nor will you see them again so who cares)

I bet the majority won't be able to hold eye contact with you, you'll start to realize that the majority of people are perhaps more shy than you might think. If someone does keep eye contact, a small smile or nod is all that is needed. And a few may actually smile back.

 

Concentrate on the girl's interests and worry less about yourself. Your self can come later on.

 

 

[Cid]

Here is how you can get over your shyness and that is by going up to 50 people you dont know 25 guys 25 girls and start talking to them you will find that most people will stand there talking even if they dont know you. That is what I did to start to brake my shyness it worked for the part of me that was afrade of strangers but talikng to someone I like that is a diffrent story all together. I hope that his helps.