i really really need some opinions

[vshedevil4206954]

ok so me and my girlfriend have been together for going on four months.....i love her alot well we love each other alot thing is i live in corpus and she lives in san antonio(a good distance) we see eachother as often as possible.....all in all our relationship is very good shes my bestfriend and my one and only.....we ocasionally have our share of disagreements and argue but since we talk at night sometimes she has to go and we never finish the conversation so i guess u could say we argue for a good day or two u no and she thinks its really bad sometimes im not saying its good that we argue but i think we have a very good relationship we laugh so much and when im with her its the best thing and when were apart i miss her so much she gets upset sometimes when i take the blame for sumtn gone wrong she says i never let her take the blame even though i know its her fault which i guess is partially true but one way or another i always tend to blame myself im not sure y i just do.....i tried telling her that it is normal for a couple to argue and no we dont argue everyday or n e thing like that just every now and then.....but i guess im not really sure about how normal it is for a couple to argue....i just need some advice or opions on this whole thing please....

......M.V.....

[Gilgamesh]

Well some couples argue all the time and just love each other, they dig it, they dont take it personal. on the other hand some are more sensitive and a little argument is seen as the end of the world.

 

Here is the thing, dont argue, what you need to do is make it a habit to talk any disagreements out with each other, when she has something to say, sit and listen, even when she says something you feel is incorrect, just make a mental note of it, then when she is through, you calmly tell her your point of view.

 

People are different you need not try and change them or have them change you, just accept them for who they are.

[Trojanmn2]

Me and my girlfriend relationship is a little like yours. We live about 40 miles apart, but we see each other everyday, she comes to town and we usually spend all the time we can. Even more time than couple who live 10 mins away do. But we have been friends for a year, and been together now for 4 months, we love each other very very much. The things is we don't blame each other, its not her fault when things happen, I know its mine, but we don't us blame ourselves. We take the blame, for feelings that happened or whatnot. We don't argue, we have no problems. We communicate our feelings alot. We talk and know when its time to stop and understand before any problems erupt. We understand each other, but sometimes I think we may undermine ourselves for our own good. But its just takes time. 4 months is still a short while. So take it easy.. enjoy each other, and enjoy having and sharing and loving each other. Just be happy. Its a fresh new relationship, live and learn

[vshedevil4206954]

i just wanted to you guys thanx for the advice i really apreciate it things are good with me and my gurl we talked it out and everythings fine.....shes not all worried but you know sumtn now i do have a different problem its no ones fault just kinda happened....the other day my gf's(roxy) ex boyfriend (chris) called her up and she hasnt talked to him in a good while....now i new that before i even came into the picture and she was with this guy that they thought she was pregnant but she told me it turned out she wasnt but das not the whole story.....she told me she really was now i didnt let her tell me what really happened yet because id prefer for her to tell me in person rather then over the phone.....but since this guy keeps calling her and i mean really calling her like he calls her like ten times in a row every twenty minutes and its driving me crazy because it really brings her down she said that talking to him like hearing his voice brought back everything(bout da baby) and since ive never been in that situation i dont exactly know what to tell her but i hate seeing her upset and i have no idea of how to help her so if n e body can help me out at all id really apreciate it......

....M.V....