I've been looking for somewhere to jump in on this topic; as I'm in this club too and have been just completely heartbroken the last couple of months; for clarification I'm a gay male and this involves a guy I just totally fell hook line and sinker for.
I met these two guys the Sunday this summer a week before the Pride Parade. Before I even know it, the very first words out of my mouth are, "Are you guys boyfriends?" They both laugh, and say no, we're just really close friends; basically bffs. So, I talk with them for a while, and end up asking one of them out. The other guy travels all the time so he leaves town. We go on a first date Thursday. It goes well. So Friday night I bring him out with all of my friends. It went BEYOND extraordinarily well. We end up sleeping together and are both just completely into each other. Literally the VERY NEXT DAY the bff dies in a freak accident!! 25 years old. Perfectly healthy, in the prime of his life. Right in the middle of pride weekend! I mean, what are you supposed to do?
So, a couple of weeks pass; the guy who's alive texts me at 2AM on a Saturday night. He's completely devastated. The next night, he comes over, stays the night, and is just a total mess. Then a couple of weeks later, he gets a real arrogant tone with me, and tells me he now has a boyfriend!? Which I don't know whether that's actually true or not but I'm obviously taking him at his word and trying to move on, which for me is tough because I love him. I chose not to confront him about it; all I did was just as calmly and as softly and with as much love as I could possibly put in my tone of voice ask him "Are you happy?" And he couldn't answer the question. Deep down however I think he really does have strong feelings for me, but his emotions are always going to link me with his bff and his sudden and tragic death.
I mean, what type of world is it where you meet somebody completely amazing, and within a week, his bff, who you were the last person he hung out alive with, and who told him to go out with you, suddenly dies!!?
