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Another story, that I totally forgot about. 1. So after the love of my life broke up with me, I started noticing a girls in school who looked exactly like her - like 90%. This girl had a boyfriend. I didn't mind. So we started to talk over the internet via MSN, eventually started to text and call, then we started to hang out in school, we finally started to go out together. Btw. she was still with her boyfriend, but he was acting kind of a douche. One night, she went out with her girlfriends and came to my place, one thing led to another and we were in bed - just kissing and talking. So she kind of cheated on him. A week later we already slept together and couple of days after that she left her boyfriend for me. We were together about 6.5 months. Eventually, she started to notice that I wasn't over my ex and she knew that she looked like her (they had been best friends in childhood btw, so they also acted kind of the same, but had hated each other for years). Once I accidentally called her by the name of my ex girlfriend and things started to go downhill. But I didn't admit to her that I wasn't over my ex. So arguments started to grow. She secretly had contacted her ex, whom she had left for me and one day, when I was out of the town, she didn't pick up the phone. Later she called me that she met her ex and they are getting back together, and if I'm not wrong they are still together. I'm happy for her. She's a good girl. We're both from the same zodiac sign, so we got along pretty good. So girl number two who I have dated after my best ex and looks like my ex. I'm cursed and now I have another girl on the horizon who looks like her, but I'm trying to keep away from her, but FATE has brought us together (that's a story for another day). IMO, there is not a lot of stories, where the girls is the dumper and goes back to the dumpee?!

I'm lovin' this thread from the beginning up to the end. Amazing stories. I have couple of them to tell: 1. I have a friend, who had been dating this girl since they were in 11th grade. I think they were 18 when they started dating. They had a wonderful relationship for about 2 years - of course with some ups and downs. The first year in university had ended (they were 20) and she went to the States for the whole summer. Apparently, she found a new boyfriend there, but never mentioned it to my friend. My friend found out, after, she had been in the States already for a month. He initiated hard NC with her for about a year. So that was their first break up. After one year of NC, they got back together, were together four about a year and then broke up again. They didn't talk for half a year. Then he started to "be her friend again" and they started going out. Then they were together about half a year. Broke up again. A month later they got together again and were together for about 6 months. Then she left again. This girls, has a lot of issues and is IMHO bipolar. She totally dislikes me one day and "plays" a great friend on another. Anyway, my friend said he has had enough. Can't be with someone, who out of the blue just packs her together and leaves. Btw. my friend got back together with her many times through NC. Many times, he initiated the contact himself. As a friend he asked her out or they went together to a random event where he "accidentally" had the tickets to. 2. I was together with a girl last summer. I started to date her, because she looked like my ex from three years ago. Even had the same laugh. So when time went on (couple of months), I realized, that I was lying to myself. The thing with me, is that I don't know how to leave a person, because I don't want to take actions towards others, that I don't want them to take towards me. So school kind of helped me and I said all the time, that I'm too busy to meet up etc. Eventually she ended it. I didn't mind. So we didn't talk from October til April. When she suddenly started calling to me and wanted to come over. I was like "I'm studying". So in the end of April, she texted me that she has a book of mine and she's moving to another city, and I should go and get it. So i went. One thing went to another, again I saw my ex in her and we slept together. I regretted it. Well, out of the blue she started to call me every night, if I wanted to come over. From there on I refused. But hey, she dumped me and kind of came back, haven't seen her for months now. But the saddest story is probably concerning my ex from four years ago (three years ago she broke up). I have had many girlfriends, but God, she was the one that I told I loved her and I had never ever said that before and haven't said it after her. In a year we both felt like we had been together for our whole lives. We traveled around Europe, flew out every now and then to other countries. Enjoyed each others company. We were madly in love. I know that she was also. But eventually things started to go sour. I think, we were or maybe I was immature (18 and with no real relationship experience). We were every day together and arguments started to come up. Sometimes, we argued for days. It kind of got exhausting. But I liked to take care of her. Liked to surprise her. Liked to make her happy. I mean, one day she calls me and says, that she's sick at home: I went to the store, bought strawberries and chocolate, went back home and covered them in melted chocolate and went to her place, lol. We had so many amazing times together, I could write another "Notebook". So three years later, I'm still not over her and think about her everyday. It's like a curse, I can't love someone else but her. Bad part is that, I keep dating girls like her and I'm kind of tired of that. We call each other on birthdays and she says that it makes it happy, when she talks to me. But I know that I was meant to find her, so you never know. Also I have improved myself and learnt my lessons from that relationship, SO my tips: 1. Agree with the break up (I did, at first, she was shocked) 2. Go for NC (I messed up this one, big time) 3. Give them space (we ended up in same nightclubs/places - that was bad) 4. Don't make them jealous (intentionally, posting pics etc) 5. Don't beg, or try to change girl's mind for too long (I did) 6. Use time apart to work on yourself (mostly mentally - inside I mean - people do change when they're strong enough). 7. If you reconcile, treat her like the most precious thing in the world (Think before you say. Think before you act) Then they'll definitely contact you. I've been giving this advice to numerous people and they have succeeded. Back then I just didn't know how to manage. And remember women look in a man for: CONFIDENCE-SECURITY-SENSE OF HUMOR. p.s. my advice is not for abusers or cheaters (god i hate men who hit women or f*ck around, when they have the best thing in front of them).