I've made no contact since the big-blow-up Monday, when I was informed that his car was "the love of his life" and endured more than 10 minutes of high-decibal emotional abuse. We literally have unfinished business concerning property, so I know there will be some contact in the near future. It has been his habit to call as if nothing happeneded after a few days, and my habit to act as though nothing happened indeed, but I do not think there's a way to get back from what was said on Monday, so in the interest of keeping what is left of my self respect, I really can't respond with the understanding I've shown previously.
The struggle, is, of course, I still love him, and his birthday is coming up in a few days. As we are both new to this city, I am aware that his birthday will not be marked, and I just can't bear the thought of it going past without a mention by me, the person who does, in fact, care about him. Evil me would like the thought of him all alone and desolate on that day, but I think I would just feel worse. So...any good ideas out there?
