shakobe33

My brother got back together with his ex. They were high school sweethearts, dated for 2 years. He moved away for his freshman year of college and she stayed since she still had one year of high school left. They maintained a LDR for several months until my brother's girlfriend found someone else and broke up with him. It tore him apart. He tried wrapping himself up in everything else in life. He maintained LC throughout. Each day was a struggle. Finally after about 8 months, he said he realized he really was over her. He got a new girlfriend . They dated for 3 or 4 months and he felt very strongly about her. He even brought her home to meet my parents. Summer break came up and they both decided not to try a LDR. He moved home for the summer. He went out with friends and continued with this life being happy. Eventually that summer he was out with some friends at a party and his high school sweetheart showed up...with the other guy. It made him want to throw up. He left immediately. He said he knew it was over and that his feelings for her were as gone as they were ever going to be, but that it still hurt and he couldn't help it. He maintained LC with his ex from college and was looking forward to potentially getting back together in the fall. About a month after the meeting at the party, his high school sweetheart calls him up to tell him that she had broken up with the other guy and was dating someone else. He wished her all the best and said "have a great rest of your life". A month after that, his high school sweetheart calls again saying how horribly her new guy was treating her. My brother listened but did not comment. Just wished her the best. Right before my brother left for college he went by his ex's house to pick up his favorite jacket that he had given her. He kind of wanted to show off to his ex from college in hopes of getting back together. When he showed up, his high school sweetheart and her boyfriend were there. This guy had some not so nice things to say about my brother and even said some things about his ex. He punched the guy out cold and was glad to leave behind the drama. His high school sweetheart broke up with that guy later that day, called up my brother, and they talked for hours. They ended up getting back together. He withdrew from college so he didn't have to leave her and they started their lives together. They have been married since 2001, have 2 kids and seriously could not be any happier! Since I'm going through my own break up that's a little similar, I have asked my brother for a lot of advice. It echoes a lot of what I have seen here. He honestly moved on. He told me he thought there was a chance he could marry his college girlfriend since it was going so well. His high school sweetheart was no longer an option, but she just somehow kept creeping back into his life. They both dated other people and realized what they had probably wasn't something they were going to get anywhere else. My situation doesn't seem to be in my favor, but I think that is for the best. I have to live and be alright with never seeing my ex again, and if she comes back, then it will be my decision! Hope I get to that day soon, but I guess I'll just have to wait it out.