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well i (stupidly I know) fell back into a fwb thing with her after she broke up with her most recent ex (her and I broke up almost 2 years ago) and then she decided it was getting too serious for her because she said it was confusing her and she knew she needed time to be single. Since then (it's been several months) we have had LC and she's been doing the single thing meeting new people. We still talk and on rare occasions will go to lunch or something and I can still feel a connection and she has said she is still attracted to me but just doesn't know what she wants. I know from past experience that I in no way want to or will allow myself to be a backup plan so I what I'm asking is if this means she probably doesn't have real feelings for me or if there is some hope attached to this

Can you get (are there stories) of getting an ex back after being strung along. My ex was/is doing so and I recently had enough and cut contact again. But if your ex is stringing you along does that mean there are no genuine feelings or is there still a hope?

Anyone have stories of getting back together with an ex who just wanted to be friends or whose romantic feelings had gone?

Sorry for the long post When I first came around these boards roughly 7 months ago when my ex broke up with me I hated seeing those posts of "just move on" and "they are never coming back". While I am still not an advocate by any means of completely whisking away hope, because I truly believe anything is possible, I finally understand those comments. I struggled A LOT for the first 5-6 months with clinging on to hope. My ex is with a new guy and I lost so much time simply analyzing everything and hoping she will return. What I came to learn is, it really doesn't matter right now. Hoping someone will come back to the extent that you are torturing yourself about it won't bring them back, but it will hinder the healing process. I believe, from what I have seen in my life, that reconciliations after a long BU are usually offered once the dumpee has moved on. By move on in this instance I mean happy, confident, and "whole" again. So the comments of move on and forget about them, TO ME, don't mean you will never reunite, but they mean you need to simply look at how things are right now, and realize that there is (in most cases) nothing you can do to force the situation in a different direction. Now I don't think this post would be appropriate necessarily unless I actually said something on topic to the thread title, so I will begrudgingly give you the 3 stories I know of. Contradicts what I said above, oh well. 1) My sister and her now husband dated for 6 years but those years were very on and off. The last time they broke up, she was a sophomore in college and he was 1 year out of college. He broke up with her, and my sister still believes that it was to pursue another girl because this other girl had proclaimed her love for him and they began dating shortly after the BU. My sister went no contact and healed. Somehow she managed to complete her healing process within 5 months (I have no clue how), but was able to start a friendship with him again from a place where she was comfortable with him dating someone else. Well maybe 3 months into the renewed friendship he broke up with the new girl and started dating my sister again. They have now been married for 7 years and have 3 kids. 2) My ex girlfriend's baby sitter growing up was with her boyfriend for a few years. I think he was deployed in the army and cheated on her. She broke up with him. Not sure how long they were separated but I know that they are married now. 3) Lastly, this story I just learned about last night. One of my best friends in high school dated her boyfriend for 3 years, went to the same college, but then he started treating her really poorly and she had enough and ended it with him. I saw her last night and she told me that even though she had been with other guys she still loved him and 6 months after the BU she asked him to get back together. He said he still cared for her, but declined. He now has a new gf. So this isn't a getting back together but the dumper did offer for a recon and is still hung up on him. Once again, something it took me a long time to learn is that while it is comforting to find similarities within someone else's story, no 2 situations will ever be exactly the same. Nobody can tell you whether or not your ex will come back, but what you can do is control how you live your life.