mochi8

My own experience: We dated for 8 years and suddenly my other half tells me he lost the feeling and broke up with me. Another reason was his mom didn't approve of me. We were separated for about two months and then we got back together. Now we have dated for 9 years and recently married and have a three months old baby girl. ---- I know it is very hard to not think about someone who shared a part of your life with. Slowly, you have to move on and concentrate on yourself. If they truly love you, they will realize how much they miss you and can't live without you in their life. I noticed girls feel the pain first, then slowly it mellows out and get better. While guys feels the pain later. They think the grass is greener on the other side. Stay strong everyone. I know it is hard, but you have to care for yourself first.

Here's my success story. My husband and I started dating when we were in our 20s. We dated for 7 years. We broke up because 1. he got bored, 2. he doesn't know what he wants, 3. his mom didn't like me (well, this is resolved now). We did NC for two months. He was traveling with his family for a month. It was hard the first month. All I was thinking was trying to get with him. Nothing was working. Eventually, I started reading about self improvement books, hanging out with friends, hitting the gym, spending time with my dogs. As the two months passed, I was starting rebuild my confidence of being single and spending time doing things I normally didn't do when we were dating. After 2 months of NC, he started messaging me about what I was doing. Again, we have a lot of mutual friends, so finding about what we are up to was not hard. Slowly, we started meeting up and texting each other. Until we finally met up and he confessed he missed me. Slowly we worked out our issues. There is always problems, but we learned to discuss with each other about the problems. We just got married last December and now we are expecting a baby girl in May. So always stay positive. If it is meant to be, it is meant to be. Break up happens very often, because being in a relationship or marriage is an ongoing work. It takes a lot of work to stay with one another. There are always obstacles on the way. Most importantly, in NC, don't think about contacting or how to get back together. If your other half misses you or loves you, they will contact you. The memories and experience of loving someone will always remain. They don't just fade away. Giving each other the time to think things out is good. That's why NC was very useful. There is no time frame when you get back with someone. It can take months, years, but if it is meant to be, it will happen. Stay positive and strong. I know these are tough times, keep yourself busy.

I agree. There is no time frame of how long the NC should be. Both parties need to grow and want to start over. Holding on to the past will only lead to another BU.

We were broken up for two months. Again I read his body language when we met up. I am still taking it slow and doing my own things.

My boyfriend of 7.5 years broke up with me due to loss of feelings. This was my longest relationship, so of course I took it pretty hard. I did NC for two months, and after 1.5 months, he started texting me and asking about our dogs (we have two dogs). A few weeks ago, we decided to meet up at a house I just purchased. I didn't beg or cry. We talked and laughed a bit. I could sense he still had feelings. He would kept saying, he will leave now, but he would wonder back into kitchen. He told me he was scared, because he broke my heart. He grabbed my hands, and then hugged and kissed me. He told me he missed me and we were back together.

Me and my ex broke up at the end of Nov from a 7 years and 5 months relationship. He told me his feelings changed and he felt bored and unhappy. He didn't like our routines. Any stories out there where the ex lost the feelings and then came back?