Hi everyone,
I'm new here and am in need of some useful advice. Well here goes my story. I joined college around last year. Initially I thought it'd be impossible for me to make friends... however after a few weeks I made like a ton of friends However then as the story goes, I fell big time for this charming, beautiful and most interesting girl. I even joined one of our class groups (editorial board) to just get to know her better.
After around two months this girl and I became really good friends. We hung out together, studied together and around the end of the second month, I decided I would tell her about my feelings for her. So one day I did that by the means of a letter.
After she read that letter, she was apparently quite surprised to find out that I had feelings for her. The answer I basically got was that she still had feelings for this guy (that she had -never- dated or had been asked out by, infact this guy knew/still knows nothing about her feelings for him and she would -never- tell him about her feelings or past feelings whatever) and thats why she didn't want to get into a relationship with anyone. While it was obviously not the answer I was expecting or rather appreciated, however I decided to be persistent.
I decided to keep on pursuing this girl, and around another month later, I asked her to have a serious conversation with me about 'us'. Again the response I got was same except it was in more detail.
Well now it's been almost six months that we've known each other. We both care about each other a lot, she helps me with everything imaginable... listens to my problems... teaches me subjects I don't know... and really puts a lot of effort into me. We've grown quite close... we share everything... and infact I happen to feel that she's the only one I -really- confide in. I'm also pretty much the only fallback for her personal problems or whatever. We're always together in college, we always have lunch together, we always study together and we talk on the phone a lot.
Now my dilema is basically a feeling of confusion. I find myself wondering all the time about where our friendship is really going. Whenever the topic of dating/relationships comes up... she sometimes uses the example of us 'being just friends'. That particular comment really pricks me hard for some reason.
I'm totally clueless as to whats gonna happen in the future, I so feel that this girl is perfectly right for me... we get along amazingly... but then there's her feelings for the guy she 'used' to like.
So guys, any advice you have to offer? Do you think what we have here is just a really good guy/girl friendship or is it more?
Thanks for taking the time to listen to this loooong story
