Rexcat84

Ok I have two: One is my own, and its not exactly finalized. But the story is my boyfriend and I had been together for almost four years. We broke up because he decided to move for a job (I felt like he should stick around one more year so I could finish up my studies and move with him , he felt like we shouldn't break up and do long distance again)... there's a lot more to the story, you can read my thread. I think the breakup really hurt both of us, and we didn't speak for about 5 months. We are long distance now and have spent the past 4 months on working to get back together, very slowly. We've seen each other twice and he's coming to visit me in a month. I'm am so thankful for the break up actually... it was really tough, but it taught me so much about myself, him and relationships. However, since we started talking again it hasn't exactly been smooth sailing either... as we are both trying to trust one another. Who knows what is going to happen... The second is actually his brother and his girlfriend. THey were together for a number of years and broke up... I'm not exactly sure why. But she moved away for over a year to teach. I know they kept in touch during this time and saw each other a few times (at Christmas etc). He went out to visit her and then she moved back once her contract was up. THey are now back together for a couple years and newly engaged. What I've learnt is that love isn't crazy, and up and down, rather its constant. Just because you feel like you're meant to be with a certain person, doesn't mean that you actually will be. You have to respect the person you love, and decide whether what they can give you is enough for you to be happy. That person has to compliment your life, but you have to be ok on your own too.