Avman, Sweet Harmony, Fifi8, thank you so much for your replies, you are complete strangers but they really meant a lot to me. Thank you.
Yesterday I went and finished moving my stuff out of the apartment (well, I forgot the microwave so I have to go back one more time...). My brother came with me because we had to move furniture down three flights of stairs. She, my ex, had some of my stuff piled in the bedroom so I walk in there to get it and sitting in the corner is a pile of some guy's clothes. Brutal. Doesn't she know she's not supposed to have sex with anyone ever again?
I walk into the bathroom to throw water on my face and there are one-too-many toothbrushes, and a man's razor and shaving cream.
I walk out of the bathroom with a thousand yard stare and she asked me what's wrong. "Nothing," I respond. What do you say, you know?
Well my brother see's all of this too, and he worked his butt off to get all of my stuff loaded and get out as quickly as possible. I went up to double-check that I have everything (how you miss a microwave I have no idea) and she says she has to go to work, but now that I am moved out of the apartment maybe we can just hang out and be friends. "Lets go out for dinner before you go back to school." Righto. I start to walk out the door and she asks me if I'm going to give her a hug, so I do, but at this point I'm shaking pretty badly and she mentions it. "It's just hard for me," I respond.
My brother is awesome. He hops in the car and doesn't say a word, just lets me break down with dignity. He spent the rest of the day and night drinking whiskey and wine with me, and doing everything he could to make me feel better.
I don't get it. Why would she leave that guy's stuff in plain sight. She broke my heart, why does she have to rip it out of my chest and serve it to me for dinner. I'm having sex with a "friend with benefits," but there is no way I would flaunt that in front of my ex. And why is she suggesting we go out and be friends? The things she does and the things she says seem to be.... out of whack.
Do you know what bothers me the most. If she called me right now and asked for me back, I would be there in a heart beat (once, of course, I had reinstalled my heart into my chest).
Chris