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Please refer to my reply to intotheself

We are both in our early 30s, and the relationship lasted for 3 years. I can't blame him for anything. I was such a mess at the end of the relationship. He did the right thing to break up with me. He is a great person and a perfect boyfriend. I guess he was too nice to me, so that I did not cherish the relationship at all. When he broke up with me, he said some harsh things to me, for the first time since we met each other. He basically said he would never get back with me, and he had lost hope in me. I was heart-broken and decided to move on. But I couldn't. It is such a torture to think that I pushed such a nice guy away. I contacted him after 4 months of NC. He agreed to meet. The meeting went perfect. I guess I was too happy with the "victory" and brought up reconciliation. He was very disturbed, and told me clearly that he did not want a relationship with me. However, I sensed a bit contradiction in his words which revealed a bit hesitation and uncertainty about his own decision. I initiated contact again and we started to interact with each other. It was friendly but reconciliation was never mentioned until several months later.

I have been back with my exbf for a month. We'd been apart for over half a year, but now we are better than before. He dumped me and I initiated contacts. Finally he decided that he wants to spend his life with me.