Day 12 of NC. Although we split up in early October ( I finished with him because he was just unreliable), I have really felt the void more acutely only in the last two weeks. We were in touch, well I was, we exchanged some nasty texts mid October, and he didn't talk to me for a couple of weeks, said my words had cut him deep and had destroyed him "so far". I don't know how true that is, or whether he was just saying that to justify not being in touch, or maybe it hit a nerve, but I sent him one last text almost two weeks ago and said I was going to leave it, so I guess that was really me saying that I was drawing a line under it all. I still think about him all the time, every waking minute - I just can't believe that he can just not be thinking about me, us. I felt like I almost had a sixth sense last night about it, that he was thinking about me, missing me, wanting to hear from me - but maybe that was just because I wanted him so much and missed him, and couldn't understand if I was feeling like that then he must. I don't know, he could be fine. He could be with someone. I just don't know and thank god I don't have any mutual friends. The funny thing is is that I had to call round an engineer to fix something today, and I know that that person knows him, but he doesn't know me, and doesn't know that I know the ex - but a weird scenario to be talking to someone who knows him who actually does not know that I used to be his colleague's girlfriend. I just wonder when this pain will subside. Christmas is difficult but easier in a way as no. 1, I have never spent it with him, and 2, at least I will be with family so that will help. Then it's the new year - will I get a NY's text? That time of the year is more reserved for partners, kisses at midnight, etc, so that's going to be tough. The only thing that I can take as a positive from this relationship is that I met someone earlier this year who I cared about so much, I was attracted to him instantly, he was to me, we had an intense and healthy (at that time) relationship. We got on so well, we made each other happy, we thought that we had both met the one. At least that gives me hope that in ten years of meeting guys who I just didn't feel that connection with, that it can happen - and hopefully in 2012 it will again, and this time it will be right and maybe, hopefully I can appreciate what I found with him. Right now though, just very very sad and missing him like crazy.