I need advice. about a month ago my girl started getting all stressed due to some family pressure about me, school, work.... and of course the last couple of months of our relationship i got stressed about a lot of things too. I got jealous a few times of her and did some dumb things that i totally regret. I made her feel i didn't trust her. The thing is I really did. But she is so beautiful she gets hit on about 30 times a day because she is a waitress. I heard so many stories about all of it i kind of got tired of it and lectured her on being to flirty and not realizing she's making guys think they have a chance by being to nice.... (stupid i know).
She was totally in love with me. she did everything to make me happy. i mean everything. bought things, changed her hair color cause she thought i preferred brunettes, told me daily that she wanted to marry me. i mean she gave me the best love anyone ever had. But because i didn't see all these signs i guess she felt i wasn't committed. But i was always very very good to her. i treated her like a person and not a piece of meat that most guys think she is. (she is model beautiful)
ANyway she told me about a month ago she needed space and didn't know what she wanted anymore. I got mad and threw a fit. then for about a week I did all the texting and apologizing. then finally about a week ago i told her i agree with the breakup and i wished her well and then we started reminiscing together about the good times.
I wanted to do no contact but she texts me everyday. I don't always respond to every text but i haven't initiated any contact in two weeks. it's been her everytime. She got me a dog because i'm getting an new apartment, and i told her to keep it cause i don't have anywhere to put it. she keeps sending me pics of the dog and of her with it. talking about it. i usually respond but it's never talk about us together. she shies away from that and i don't push it.
Then one day i met her at walmart to look at dog stuff and it had been a couple of weeks since i seen her. she bragged about the way i looked (i lost wieght got me some abs now!!) she even kissed me there. i get a text the next day saying you've changed but in a good way.
Yesterday i got my apartment. she was asking me about it and need a place for this dog, she calls our dog. when i told her i was on my way to go look at it she said she was there and kind of hinted she wanted to see it. when i got there she complimented my looks again. she made an advance on me kissed me and held me and then she says OMG your skinny, but like in a strong way. then she lifted up my shirt and saw my abs and acted like she got blushy. I just acted all nonchalant.
Still though she doesn't really ever bring up us as a couple, or says i love you anymore. I'm not sure no contact is good at this point as i really don't know if she's getting back into me or just hanging around. she has upped the contact quite a bit from just texting to calling and talking to me.
I never bring up the relationship. I'm trying to act like either way i'm fine. i feel like she's playing games but i'm just not real sure. she enjoys hanging out with her friends more and more and hasn't asked me out or anything. she seems about halfway in, but apprehensive. yet giving me suttle signs she's not totally done.
If i cut off contact i might piss her off cause if she's trying to open back up and i just ignore her that might ruin it i think. how should i get her to fully miss me and be all in like she was?
