Crazy Juice

There is no formula or numbers, having read many, many posts on here and some other books it is always about getting yourself back first and foremost - if you are not back they will never come back, working on why the relationship failed. Addressing any issues or learning you need and becoming the person you once were before the relationship (as we are all guilty of changing when with somone!) Will they come back - who knows it depends on to many variables - Love, compatibility, if females then their intuition on how suitable you are for them, also their emotional thought process as women are guided by both these last points, Regret, Time and NC help the most I think - but life has only two certainty's....! To tie it to the OP - I would guess maybe 20 - 30% come back within a short period ( Maybe 5 - 10% come back longer - 6 months or more - when both people have grown success is more likely

Harsh284 - Yep true story - might have the dates slightly wrong as I didnt want to dig into details and pry - but gave me hope as sometimes I guess people get overwhelmed by a relationship and need some space or time to think and reflect. She did say at the back of her mind she always loved him etc but at points in relationships and life a catalyst happens and people suddenly change....our hope as dumpees is the reverse catalyst takes place from NC while we grow, improve and better ourselves. This doesnt mean all the time in breakups but it does happen. Never cling onto the hope you will get back together, let them go, find yourself....again - this experience will make you a better person, I am slowly getting past this and facing the reality. I heard a great phrase from a public speaker last week which helped; "The past is for reference, not residence" Learn from this experience what you need

After breaking up with my GF of 4 1/2 years 3 months ago, I got talking to a girl at work - mainly for advice as I had gone through the usual experience everyone has on here begging texting etc. Anyway the point of the original post was success stories. This Girl (27 y/o) told me she had been with her BF for 3 years and one day woke up and felt trapped and that she was going nowhere with him - I didnt ask all the details as it was none of my business. Anyway she wanted to go out partying having fun - basically blowing off steam etc - they had dated since 18 I think. The dumpee did all the usual chasing, pleading begging which she said really pissed her off that he wouldnt let it lie and go NC - it got to 8 months later - he had accepted it....JUST ABOUT - changed his number. The Girl at this point 8 months in - in her words realised something and asked herself "What the f*** was she doing" anyway she tried contacting him again - story short they got back together again - that was 4 years ago they got married a month ago Gave me some hope, but the point is it does happen - but as is in other threads - the longer the time passes - I think the more chance to (suCcessful!) reconciliation - but as always both parties need to want that or nothing happens - more importantly both parties need to have grown in some way