midnightdeirdre

She said other mean things, also. The smells-bad-comment is all I remember. (And of course, my comeback.)

It was on my mind. And I got curious why it was considered inappropriate when it worked. As you all know, I'm autistic. Things come into my mind and I don't understand them. I post them on here to see if you guys can help----to put it mildly, you guys saved my butt awhile ago when I almost emailed an ex boyfriend's friend; read that here:

I wasn't jealous of her at all. Interestingly, we started out kind of friendly...at one point we talked about hand jobs. She insisted, "Guys hate hand jobs! They can do it better themselves!" But she wasn't correct. Some guys I've spoken to have said they enjoy them. (Better than no job at all apparently, lol.) Don't recall what triggered our confrontation. But obviously I wondered why my "crotch" comeback was inappropriate, considering it worked and she grinned widely after I said it.

Yes this is correct. And no, my parents don't know how much I look back at my past.

I've seen over a dozen therapists/social workers/counselors/psychiatrists since I was 16. Only a select few genuinely helped. That's why I post on here things that are on my mind that I have trouble understanding.

If you walk up to someone and randomly say "Your crotch smells bad" than yeah, way inappropriate. But if a girl who brags about her sex life bullies you and I'd say that's different.

1.) What does my body odor have to do with anything? She said I smelled bad. 2.) If it was such a lame comeback, then why did it work?

You're kidding, right? Those reactions just reward the behavior.

If you're shocked and/or embarrassed, do you "smile" about it?

Exactly. She insulted me, so I insulted her. Looking back, Michelle also bullied this other girl in the SAME study hall; called her "ugly" and that she looked like "the Fozzie Bear muppet." Whenever the girl came into the study hall, a guy would shout "Muppet!" That poor girl eventually transferred out of that study hall because of Michelle. lol man, that Michelle was not only a tramp, but a real b**tch.

I obviously have a huge memory; when I remember things like this it makes me wonder why it wasn't appropriate. And I would like to see if someone can explain it to me; and maybe I'll get it. (Probably not, haha!)

I was curious why it was inappropriate to say that, given the situation and Michelle's personality. (As I said, maybe it wasn't considered socially acceptable but it worked and put Michelle in her place. And I recall she didn't bother me again after that.)

You tell me.

1.) Michelle really was a sl*t, though. One of those promiscuous girls in high school who bragged about giving blow jobs and her sex life. (And if someone embarrassed you, would you smile about it? OR gasp and frown?) 2.) Well ok---the counselor laughed and thought it was funny; I don't recall if she actually said it was a good comeback, though. 3.) Again I say: Michelle was a sl*t and said I smelled bad, so I'd say it'd make sense I'd call her on what her genitalia was probably like. 4.) She was humiliating me, so I humiliated her back. (And one may argue I definitely won.) Well all right---what should I have said then? "Michelle, that wasn't nice." Yeah, that would've told her. 🙄

lol, I actually don't see how it's both...if Michelle deserved it, then why was it inappropriate?

Thankfully I don't deal with people like that anymore. (Well then what would have been the right thing to say to Michelle about her bullying? As I said, my comment shut her up and she seemed to like it.)

This situation happened in high school. I want to know why some people feel my comeback was inappropriate, when the girl had it coming: Study Hall, my senior year: I got targeted by this ***ty girl named Michelle. She said I smelled bad. I turned to her and said, "If something smells bad, it's your crotch!" After I said that, Michelle sat there and smiled. (She had a look like, "She got me. Cuz she's right!") Two other girls had looks of shock on their faces. One counselor I told this story said thought my comeback was good. Another counselor said it was inappropriate. (As did the two shocked girls.) But why, though? My comeback shut up Michelle and as I said, she sat there and smiled, with a look of defeat. Was what I said truly inappropriate (my autism) or was it exactly what Michelle deserved?

Interesting, she honestly thought it was tumor? Did she abort it?

My mom in particular has always been over-protective. She says that's way all mothers are, lol.

The best way to describe how differently autism effects those who have it, would be like describing how differently pregnancy effects women who are pregnant. For example, 2 pregnant women might share similar pregnancy symptoms: they both have morning sickness the first three months. Then, one woman will crave melted chocolate nonstop for the rest of the pregnancy, while the other pregnant woman will crave nothing but salty foods and be downright disgusted by chocolate. See how both pregnant women shared similar symptoms, but also completely different ones?

The autism spectrum is, in a word, WIDE. Watch this video and you'll get it...

Yes, he knows I am autistic. (Very much so, lol.) In fact, everyone I am close to knows.

I talk to myself a lot and daydream to the point of self-hypnosis. Doing that with a book in front of me gives customers the impression that I'm "normal."

I'll admit, things did not start getting positive for me at the supermarket until I had my doctor write a note to them requesting some specific conditions: 1.) To keep my ONLY on the 12-items-or-less lane. 2.) Let me read when there are no customers around. I realized I loved the 12-items-or-less lane (to put it mildly); it was quiet and not as fast-paced(obviously), which was beyond perfect for me. Once that condition was granted, I started getting more hours than ever---the most hours any part-time cashier could have. Shortly afterward I was (finally) promoted to full-time cashier.

I guess no, I don't see myself as a grown woman. I miss my childhood too much. Even though I have a Bachelors degree I've never been able to keep a "real" high-paying fulltime job. None of them lasted. I don't make enough money to move out on my own. On the upside: I've been a cashier with a supermarket for 10 years now; started out as part-time and was upgraded to full-time October 2020.