Daisy11

Thanks MakeItCount and faithful! I will keep you all updated. I really want to just "take the plunge" and try to reconcilation for good but I also want to make the smart decision so we'll see but I'll keep posting. If I hear of a different reconcilation story in the meantime, I'll be sure to add it to this thread!

Okay so I guess I have my own reconcilation story, or at least I can say the option of reconciliation has been offered. Long story short, my Ex and I were engaged after only 7 months of dating and after 9 months of the engagement, he broke it off. We have gone through the past 9 months with a lot of up and down, push/pull scenarios and he constantly asked for me back but then would push me away again after only a few short days. At one point (about 3 months ago) he started dating someone else and that was the point where I decided that there was no hope between us and I went total NC and moved on with my life focusing on ME and only ME. And you know what, it felt great! I started seeing a therapist and she has changed my life helping me work on my own issues and insecurities. Well, the Ex finally broke things off with his rebound about 6 weeks into their "relationship" because he felt he needed/wanted me back. I was very reluctant at the time and we didn't really make it very far, maybe only went on a couple of dates before we decided to go NC again because I felt enough time had not passed since his break-up with the rebound. Some more push/pull games occurred during January and again, I went NC and tried to maintain my distance because I have finally found happiness by myself and on my own. Now, most recently, he has come back again and this has been a consistant 3 or 4 weeks of him trying to contact me every day (that's a long stretch for him), sending me texts telling me how much he cares about me and he has tried to work on his communication. I have seen some changes in him and I do think he truly wants it to work and I think it would be great if things could work between us, however I am having trouble getting over his actions in the past as well as I have doubts that he has truly had enough time to work on himself and make a real change. (it has only been 3 or 4 weeks!) I'm nervous but the cards are in my hand and it's up to me to decide if I truly want him back or not. I constantly struggle between if it's already too late and I've moved on, or if we can really make this work for good and get over these horrible past 9 months. ............ I'm just not sure right now. My point is, a lot of people have posted that their Ex did eventually come back and that it was just too late. My Ex told me lots of times to "F off" and to "get out of his life for good and not call him ever again" and now he has had a change of heart, realizing he was just running away from his true feelings. Whether we end up dating again or not, going NC worked for me to have time to work on myself and find out who I truly am and I am very happy at this point in my life and know I will stay this way whether he is around or not. Good luck everyone!