AmericanHuney

Couldn't have said it better myself! Especially the part about how there is "no such thing as false hope"! Becuase people break up everyday and people get back together everyday as well... the real question is Will You Want Them Back When They Do Come Back? And as LeeRoy said "i've actually brought ex's back into my life naturally" this is the key!! You dont' focus on it or worry about it, just live and you'll see what I mean

I disagree, but we all have our own individual opinions. So I respect yours, still I think they always come back.

Oh they always come back lol always...the real question is will you want them when they do? Now that's a good question

It's not over until the fat lady sings Missfloss, you just never know dear

Ok so not that this counts as a success story but I thought I'd throw it out there to give others perspective.... 1. My college boyfriend and me dated about 9months (this was my junior year). He was a year older than me and we hardley ever fought we just had fun together doing silly things like watching movies and going to the beach a lot. He ended up studying abroad that lasted about 3months in the fall. We planned on staying together and we talked about every other day for the first two weeks he was abroad. Then out of nowhere he ends it, just like that. He said he just wanted to follow his career and didn't have time for a girlfriend. I was devastated and didn't know what had happened. I went NC immediatley, because I don't beg and I didn't see the point in keeping in touch since I didn't really see him as a friend but my boyfriend. I saw him on campus from time to time when he got back from his studies in another country but stayed far away, I mean he really hurt me. He tried approaching me at a party about 6months after the breakup but I said I didn't want to talk to him and left the party. So we graduated, he went off to grad school I heard through mutual friends and I went an moved to a new city. Well 3yrs pass and guess who pops up on FB trying to be friends again and work it out with me! Yep, you got it HIM! Well I was way over it and basically said "thanks but no thanks!". Guess he had his dose of life and realized I was the best thing he was ever going to get. 2. I dated a guy for a year and a half when I moved to a new city after college. We had so much fun together an talked about having a family someday and getting serious, but we both agreed that focusing on our careers and each other was the most we could handle at the time becuase we both wanted to be successful for ourselves and one another. We were the same age btw. Well one day I find out he's cheating on me and had been for 2months, gosh that hit me hard. Right away again, NC! I wanted nothing to do with him I was so devastated. Well about 3months later I start getting little texts here an there, then about 6months into the breakup he's begging me back and says he made the biggest mistake of his life! I told him to get a life! I dont' go back to people who cheat, yuck! Even after I said that he kept begging for another 3months!! Gosh guy didn't get a clue right! Anyway, these are not really success stories but I wanted to share becuase I know if I wanted either of these guys back by the time they came back I could have had them full force! I also wanted to share becuase NC works for me and I say it's the way to go, becuase you shouldn't have to beg someone to stay and it does help to move on. Plus if it's meant to be then you'll know in your heart when they do come back, but for me I knew in my heart they were not the guy for me so I said no. I also agree, that it depends on how the breakup ends if you will want them back when or if they come back. Cheating I say No Way! But as for my first boyfriend if he had fought harder sooner, like within a year I would have at least tried. But he took too long and I grew up a lot. One more Story: My friend was seeing this girl for like 4months, he really loved her. Then one day she writes him an email saying she's going back to her ex. He was so devastated, lost it pretty much for months. Well about a year later, she contacts him and begs him back saying she made such a mistake and they have been dating now for 3months strong! They are so in love! He also went NC once she ended it and I think over time she grew up and realized what she had done and lost. So there ya go NC works! and if they don't come back, then it's their loss and you move on! But as I said before, you'll know in your heart when the opportunity arises if you want them back. I do believe some people have connections and when they are lost and then reconnected again, they can pick back up and forgive because they truley love eachother. xxx!