Ok here goes. I have posted here earlier about starting NC. The love of my life broke up with me 4 months ago. We were together for 7 years and got married last year. Just before he broke up with me he got a job in another country. We were both planning to move there. A lot of things happened that led to our break up, including some health related and him having a crush on another woman. He is now overseas and having a long distance affair with this woman and seems to think she is the one for him. He has said that he loved me with all of his heart and at first we talked almost everyday and I was there for him whenever he needed me after he left. I realize now that I made big mistakes in doing that and in crying and asking to reconcile, etc. He has now become distant and harsh towards me. And very short. The other day he messaged that he did love me but he didn't know how, but it had changed. I realize that I must go NC, in order to heal and if there is to ever be any chance of a reconciliation. We do have some joint financial ties and I still have all of his belongings, since he was only able to take a couple of suitcases when he moved. His overseas contract is for 2 years, but he will be back for the holidays. He also found out that he will need major surgery and has asked me to come and be with him during his recovery. I am torn about this. I want to go, we were together during my cancer surgery and recovery 2 years ago. But I realize that this may not be the best thing for me to do. He doesn't have a date for the surgery yet, but believes that it may be scheduled for sometime next month.
I need all of the advice, support, etc. that I can get at this time.
Ayana