hellodoe
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hey brownage! who knows really what it means, but all that matters is you. it makes me smile that you see that! my situation with my ex is confusing at best haha (: p.s. not creepy at all! thank you v much, i'm sure if i saw your picture i'd say you're quite attractive yourself
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i do the EXACT same thing at school, it's nice to come here and see how people are doing and offer advice. i'm sorry about your ex dating someone new it's probably a rebound and won't last =/. congrats on day 20 too, that's a lot of time.
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i feel like i don't even care anymore whether we get back together or not, i'm actually leaning more towards the latter haha. funny i never expected to feel this way. she asked me to call her asap, i'll probably shoot her a text when i get around to it and end it at that, if she wants to call i'll decline. i'll wait for the summer to see how it goes, i'm going to college in a few months and will be surrounded by amazing women much better than my ex. for the first time in a while i don't have a care in the world regarding the ex, still think about her, but not in the same way AT ALL. it took me 2 months of all positive LC after a 2 year relationship to feel this way. honestly i have to say it's my new job that really got me this far, i also surrounded myself with strong women that i really admire (this helped SO much, by boss is the strongest woman i know and i also started going to a church with a woman pastor who is so unbelievable in strength and in beauty + my teachers and strong female friends.) and pushed myself to do things i for whatever reason just didn't do when i was with my ex (go to the gym every other day, hangout with friends almost everyday, etc..). + i talked about my feelings no matter what they were with my sister, someone i knew wouldn't get sick of me blathering about the same topic haha. started talking to other girls, had a fling (not really recommending this, esp. if the person has feelings for you, which is something i ended up having to deal with. But it was good for my libido ha..), and i know i'm not going to have a tough time dating, just have to make sure i pick the right one next time! i'm happy.
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DAY 1 AGAIN. We talked on the phone and caught up again - initiated by her -- again. she asked me to be the one to initiate next time confused about what i want or if i even want to reconcile anymore.
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lol, it really is!
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she e-mailed me again after i ignored her last e-mail, just a link to a website with necklaces she though i would like i did like them, and i bought one lol.
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at least you don't have THAT bogging you down anymore! stay strong & NC, you're almost at two weeks and that's freaking fantastic! you can only move forward, it's win win for you, things could work themselves out w your ex or you'll move on to be a stronger person, you just can't lose. stay strong.
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haha, i think she is the one giving ME hope by saying that
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so 2 weeks ago my ex told me to call her if i EVER felt like talking, i haven't and she's made an attempt to contact me twice via e-mail since then. should i call her if i feel like talking?
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after another week of NC from me she e-mailed me something she had been pushing me to look at for awhile and i responded with something short i felt too guilty to say nothing at all when she was trying so hard to be sweet bah. she responded to me right away like always and i plan on ignoring that at least.
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DAY 6 spent the day in the sun, went into work and just got off, it was a good day. thought about the ex a good deal, didn't get upset though. but i'm happy. my boss started referring to me as her daughter all night and it made my WEEK, i adore her! so it was wonderful to have my platonic love reciprocated haha.. stay strong guys, you'll learn more about yourself everyday..
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feeling fine, i have so much drama in my circle of friends to even think about my ex i had a short fling with a girl that quickly got messy as her feelings were more intense than mine. so she's gone, planning on apologizing to her though once the hurt dies a little i feel terrible for her. but other than that i'm getting a mani/pedi today, going to the gym, cutting my afternoon classes to go to the beach w my friends tmrw and working all weekend (i love my job!). not really missing her since she was the last one to contact me, i can respond or not respond any time i want . but i won't haha.
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after two weeks exactly (my NC includes no FB/tumble/twitter/etc updates) my ex called and left a voicemail. she had been calling and e-mailing but i had been ignoring them, the e-mails were nothing important and the calls had no voicemails so i made a rule i wouldn't call back unless she left a voicemail. anyway, after 2 weeks she left a voicemail. she said she really wanted to know where i'm at what i've been doing ect.. she basically just said "i want to know how you're doing" but rephrased it like 20 times in the message. i called her back 5-6 hours later when i got off work. she asked me a lot about my life and how i've been doing, i told her bits, we laughed and stayed on the phone for 30 minutes before i said it was getting late and i had work to do (so hard to do lol). before i got off the phone she said she really loves talking to me, i'm an amazing person, blahblah and she asked me to try and stay in contact with her. i told her i would do my best to do so, but i have no intention of making any moves myself. i feel really good about it though. not bc i think we'll get back together, just bc this conversation w her reinforced that she's probably not the one for me and i'm way too good for her. i think i'll do NIC for now.. DAY 1.
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you're so strong for not picking up! i could noooooooot do the same. definitely admire you !
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Thank you for the reply! I feel like you're already a great friend of mine! I want to work things out but at the same time, I feel that if we reconciled and got back together I wouldn't trust her. She's a very damaged person with terrible coping skills, when she first broke up with me she laid in bed for days watching TV and googling my name just to find out what i was doing/feeling So I'm scared she's not growing forwards and is just going backwards.. But I guess like you said I'll see by summer time. It's very nice to hear from someone that's been in her position.. It's comforting. I'm sorry about what happened with you and your ex. She clearly made an awful mistake in leaving you, you seem to have turned out to be a truly wonderful guy. Your next girlfriend will surly be blessed. What books did you read, if you don't mind me asking?
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I didn't tell her, just disappeared off all social networking (didn't block her on any of them just stopped updating them) and stopped contacting her / responding to her contact. I made a thread about the break up, it's kinda long. I really want to accept the break up and move on.. I feel like I can't lose that way.
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Yes, it is a terrible shame =/, it makes me sick to my stomach. Thank you SO much it means a lot to me to have your support, I've done a month of NIC, all contact was on her part and I would keep my responses small, I've just recently decided to ignore her all together. It's tough, I still think about her all the time but at least I can laugh and smile again. Thank you! If I lived in a more populous area I would feel less worried, but it's a small homophobic town with a demographic of mainly old people haha.
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Her younger sister has cystic fibrosis, we started a team for a CF walk about 4 months ago and have been raising money. The walk is June 5th where we will both be attending, but i plan on bringing about 20 friends and avoiding contact as best i can. funny, she's raised $50 and i've raised $700 so far and it's not even my sister [-(. probably because half her paychecks go to cigarettes and half my paychecks go to CF. i like to look at that as a reflection of how our relationship would have panned out haha.
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Day 4 we are on very amicable terms, and she has made many attempts to reach out to me. but i have ignored them all. hopefully i can stick to this until we are forced to see each other in june! can't take another minute of this over emotional woman.