murka

Thanks for your support. I have this problem for as much as I can remember, but fear of doctors is expected from a child, so it was not obvious back then. I think I'm shy about my body, although there is nothing wrong with it and I don't like to be toched or looked at, I need much more space and privacy then other people I know. Which also doesn't help I'm afraid of pain. With my husband it was actually a fairy tale story. We knew each other for long time before we started to date and he is the most tender, thoughtfull and nice human being I know. I totaly trust him, so we never had problems with each other. With my family and close friends there is also no problem. In my past there are no specific events that could cause it. We will probably would like to have kids one day, so I think getting over this problem is unevitable

Hi Eeyore! I'm afraid to go to the doctors from different reasons, but I understand how you feel. What works for me (it may sound weird, but it works most of the times) is to tell te doctor/nurse that you don't fancy (so to tell) this procedure and his/her close attention to your body. Even if you don't mind the injections and check-up (I do very much mind them), you can consider to tell this, since then you earn this person's sympathy before he turns to be your enemy. I always try to explain that this is nothing to do with the specific medical staff person, but it is my problem, a very old one. Then I usualy say that although I wll try to cooperate as much as possible, I will probably refuse to do some things. If you can see that he/she is might be gifted with sense of humor, you can even joke about it, or at least smile disapprovingly at yourself. The usual reaction to this is more understanding, tender and thougfull approach taken by doctor/nurse and it also lets you an opportunity to avoid things that you want to avoid. If you have already appologized for it, they do not get angry and uncooperative. Since you go there because of the trip and not medical problem, I think that you may even leave there unchecked at all. Regarding the cutting problem, I tried it for myself once and I can clearly see how it helps. On the other hand not to to be needed for this is much nicer feeleing and I very much wish you to find other ways to help youself. Good luck!!!

Hi all, I'm 27 years old and still suffer form doctor phobia - I avoid visiting any doctor that might ask me to remove any of my clothes or perform procedures more complicated than taking blood pressure, even if it does not involve needles. It also spread to other parts of my life when I refuse that Yoga teacher touches me during the class to show the correct posture performance. As an opposite to needles phobia, this fear is not commonly understood, even by doctors, so they always take me for a very stubborn, uncooperative patient and get angree. On the other hand I'm happily maried and have no problem to go to the pool (for example). I'm not familiar with any other adult that has such a problem. I will be very glad to hear from anyone with similar problem or from person who can relate to this. Does anyone have some tips of help? I have posted this cry for help on two other forums, but received no response. Hope this forum is more appropriate. Thanks, Kathy