I hurt my ex-boyfriend and the man I was seeing!
My ex and I broke up a year ago - but we have been on and off trying to be platonic - with occasional slip ups by giving into having sex. He knows that I have been dating - but not on a regular basis. I know he still is in love with me - and sometimes it is hard for him to deal with us - just being friends. He is my best friend - and love to be with him and know that we aren't compatible in a relationship.
I will get to the point. Last June 2003 I went with my ex to his co-workers house for a small party. I met one of his co-workers - and instantly took a liking to him. We all had a great time. My ex, the co-work i took liking to, and i left. long story short - i ended up at the co-workers apartment - and we had sex.
The co-worker and i have been secretly dating since then. we have sworn that we have to tell my ex. co-worker sees ex every day and they are friends. But, we kept putting it off - we were afraid of the implications - we will hurt him - he will hate us - he will never talk to us again. So we kept putting it off, and putting it off, meanwhile we think we are falling in love.
Yesterday - my ex found out from another co-worker what we have been doing. he is pissed, angry, hurt, embarrassed, and never wants to talk to us again. All of this is understandable.
I feel horrible, guilty, and the worst person in the world - how could i hurt my ex and friend so much. and to top it off the co-worker does not want to be with me anymore. I don't know what to do?
is this define justice for being so deceptive.
i don't know how to deal with the lost of both the ex best friend - and someone I am in love with - and starting to care about deeply.
Can i mend both relationships, only one, which one?
please help!
