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NC day 27. Break up day 57. 2 missed calls from ex so far. one on day 14, thee other on day 26. so a mutual friend called today. that my ex called her to complain that i refuse to pick his calls. that he wanted to know what exactly was happening to me and how i am doing. Luckily she lied to him that she had no idea. so he said okay. Thank God i didnt even pick! Freindzoning......lol. never
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day six here. I dont feel so sad. the highs and lows keep coming. But i am fine. i will be fine. I am fine.
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Day 4. was feeling down yesterday, even into the night, but i guess i feel better today. Got tempted to send him several messages, but i am glad i didnt. Isnt it funny when you look at the stuff you planned to send and see how silly they sound? i typed out about five different letters. been looking at them this morning and they seem so silly. lol
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Wow. Anon, your post brought tears and hope to me. i can wait till i am one month and start to feel better. I really cant wait.
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Well said Loxxt. Well said
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then stop looking. please stop looking at it. for real! the more you look the more tempted you are to breaking NC.
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Block her from face book, asap. Seriouisly. it would tempt you the break NC. besides you would start reading your own meanings into what you see. Block her or suspend your fb account asap. Seriously. i am talking from experience. I am on day three here! feeling okay for now. A hot bloke is coming to check me out at work today. wish me luck!
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we are in the same boat dear. i have three ex's on my tail........i cant count how many times i have restarted NC. today is another restart again. So dear Exsweet heart, lets go thru the challenge together. i am on day 1 too! try meeting me on msn or gtalk. we could always cheer each other up when we feel down or are tempted to break NC.
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Ex sweetheart, i understand what you are going through. I think in our case, we are indirectly the dumpees, because we left because they didnt want us! I guess, we have no choice but to try to be strong!
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hi ex sweet heart, i really know the feeling. My ex did not put up any fight, and it still hurts like hell. We will get thru
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And so my ex sends me a msg today. Says he missed me. He loves me, and he truly wants me back. But is still not ready for marriage psychologically. he left me IMs and texts. Said the NC really made him realise wat he had.
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Thank you Anon. U don't know how much hope your words brought to me. Its a new dawn, a new NC for me. I am not breaking it this time. My life does not depend on him, and I can be happy without him
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My new day one. Feels so sad.
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What do i do? ignore him the next time he sends mean IM, should i ignore it like nothing happened before, or should i tell him again that i want to go NC?
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I just broke NC. I am sad. i dunno, i am sad. I wish i didnt. Ex said hi and i replied hi, and then it started from there. he started telling me about how his week had gone. it was like text bomb. He kept on saying he had been going to eat at the place 'we' loved to eat, and how he went to see the agent that 'we' both liked and all that. he ranted on (the text was like ten texts long. We didnt mention the relationship. it was just formal talk. he told me about work and how the past week has been very very hard for him, how he got broke, and all that. I dont know, i am in a confused state right now. i dont know what to do. i am just confused.
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Phew. My ex leaves Sunday morning. I have two questions: 1. Shld i send him a text wishing him a safe trip? 2. If i dont send him a text and he eventually sends one to tell me he is leaving do i reply?
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Wow. Anon333, your post really touched me. Actually copied it and saved it. Day 8 NC today. Spoke with mutual friend (his friend who became my friend). He said he tried to talk to my ex to find out what was going on. He said my ex kept saying he doesn't know his next step. That he kept saying he needs to clear his head. He probed further asking if he planned to start dating and all that but said my ex didn't give any definite answer. That he kept saying he didn't know. But that generally he sounded okay. I dunno if that's supposed to make me feel better or worse. Now that he is deeply thinking, would the time away from him make him forget me? Arrrrgh! I hate this overanalysing.
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One week NC. I feel good about my self, but i feel so bad that he hasnt even bothered calling. someone who claimed he loved me so much. Its just sad. No effort to contact me. not even a text.
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Yayyyyy! so this is day 7. first time since i started dating my ex, i went seven whole days without contactng him. He still hasnt called, but i am less worried now. I am focusing on my Masters (i am a Dr) and trying to lose some weight around my middle (lol). Right now i am thinking why i even stayed with him, and why i tried to show him so much love when he didnt appreciate it. I remember once when i wanted to break up with him, and i was telling him abou t a new guy i met who really liked me, and he started advising me and giving me tips on how to date the guy and make the relationship with the guys last! I dont know how i sat there and listened to such crap. Who loves a girl yet gives her advice on how to date another man? I am doubting if he really loved me, or if the whole relationship was just convenient for him. He claims he is confused about marriage, but i once saw a mail from him to a friend saying he would have married his ex (who left him for the same reason: refusal to commit after five years dating) and wishes he had stayed back with her. I cant even believe i forgave him and got back to him after seeing that message. Right now, i am not sure i want to go back. But lets see how it goes.
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Day 6! and i'm still here. Hard to believe. still feel bit down, but i think i just woke up today and said to myself.....wow! i cant believe i am still here. Day 6! still here! wow! I have started thinking about the relationship and identfying somethings that went wrong. I realise i was too caring. I made myself a doormat and thought i would be appreciated. When he lost his job, i took him in, would share my salary equally with him, but when i was jobless, he did no such thing. Right now, he even owes me about a thousand dollars. I wrapped my world around him, and instead of reading the signs that he didnt really care, i just kept throwing myself and being a doormat. I should have shown my worth, i should have shown him that i could do without him. he made a statement during the last breakup, even though he claimed it was a joke, he said he never believed i could do without him, and that everytime i left him because he could not commit, he just waited till i would come back, cos he knew i would. I wouldnt blame him though, i came back nine times. He later said it was a joke though. Thats just the first thing i noticed wrong about the relationship. I guess more are gonna come.
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Okay. Now my ex 'mistakenly' sends me his bosses IM on ymessgr! Simple text that said: hi janet, shld I forward the documents to your desk?' But I was wondering if he did it on purpose. Anyway I dint reply. I didn't try to even say wrong msg or anything. Do people type in the names of the people they are IMing into the msg? Anyway let me stop overanalysing. Five mins later he sends another that says: Sorry, mistake. That's it
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Day 5 for me here! I am getting so worried. Ex has not called. seems he has accepted my request for the NC. He travels on sunday. I am so scared that once he is in a foreign country he wont remember me! I miss him so much!
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I just made an honest mistake. Truly. honest one. A friend texted me: have a great week ahead. I wanted to reply her, but i didnt have airtime on my phone, so i picked up my second phone and typed in : 'Same to you' and then mistakenly typed in my ex's number which is stuck in my brain into the phone and sent it. honestly i am upset. I dont want him thinking i sent it to him in reply to his vals day text because thats not what it was. what should i do? further ignore it/ or send him a text that the message wasnt for him? now i am soooooo angry. pls what should i do?
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Ex sweetheart we have such a similar story. Dated ex for two years, was practically a doormat, and now he tells me he can't commit that he still wants to bachelor around for the next four to five years before commiting. So I am on day 2 of NC too. And I am so determined not to break it. He says he wants us to be best friends but of course I said no. PM me if u need to talk. We cld be breakup buddies!
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please what is LC? Anyway i was almost tempted to break NC this morning! he sent a text saying how much he cherished me and if all we had was all just for memories. i had already typed out the reply, but took the advice to wait before sending. i would delete the message soon