Mr Brightside

Hi, I've been split up with the ex for about 2.5 weeks now, tried NC, the longest i've managed is 4 days, well, had a result this morning, she called me to say she missed me, had thought things through, and wants to meet to dicuss things. we've broken up many times before over the amount we argue, so all the words i've been telling her about giving one last go had all been heard before. meeting tomorrow to talk, both gotta be 110% prepared to make it work, take it slowly and set some firm foundations to build on. Fingers crossed, but giving a bit of time has worked, i've been through hell, hope it works out! so, it does happen to some people then!

Day 4 We've been broken up since last tuesday. I tried to call her last night, from a withheld number, she didnt answer, but that isnt unusual as she doesnt normally answer them anyway really. glad she didnt anyway, chances are that she might think it was me. Sod it, i dont care anway. Started to feel a bit more comfortable with being without her now. Started to feel angry towards her, shes an idiot, her loss as far as i'm concerned, went around my mates last night, when i was walking home, i was thingking about all the things i didnt like about her, there was quite alot. Personally, this NC thing wont get her back, and do you know what, i'm starting to think F@*# her anyway!

Thanks quirky_girl... Yeah, i did have more of a plan than just taking her to london, i was meant to be doing it for her birthday with is first week of August anyway. To be totally honest, this is the 3rd time we've split, but feels totally different, normally sort it out within 3 days at the very most. Positive and self respect is mentioned all the time and its definitely key. Personally i need to get my appetite back, feeling pretty run down and emotionally drained. I'm eating, probably about 60% of what i would be normally, i'm forcing food down at the moment. Really need to eat a decent meal tonight.

Day 3 (but 1 week, 1 day since split) Its been a really weird day, I have had the most strongest urges to call her today. I had been fantisizing about things i could do for her to make her feel like she wants me again. I had it in my head that i'd go round hers tonight and tell her i want to take her to london for the weekend and just see how it goes. I called someone and told them my plan, they shot me down instantly and make me realise that i'm meant to be going NC. I have it in my head that i need to last until sunday and then it will be a week. I do know what shes been up to roughly this week, and i know shes not been in her normal routine, well, not "our" normal routine. Shes been staying at her familys house. I know that hopefully tonight, she'll be back in the routine of finishing work and cooking, gym, tv & then bed, i hope she starts to miss me this week. Please someone slap in the face, i keep getting them feelings like i'm nothing, and i wont ever be happy again. i've been better at work this last 2 days, but i find myself getting into my work, then forgetting stuff for a moment, then realising that i havent got her to go home to tonight. this forum is helping me tho

Day 2!!! (we split a week ago though) Went to the pub last night, dragged myself to do it, but when i was there i really felt like i was ok, chatting about rubbish with 2 of my best mates, it really did help. What didnt help was feeling a bit hung over this morning. i do love her, but i think i'm starting to realise i also loved being with someone. I still want to see her and contact her, but, this whole NC thing has got to be for me too, got to realise what i actually want too, i know i want the heartache and empty and feeling lonely to go badly. My Mum called her today, to see if shes ok, i kind of regret her doing this now, as its a contact, and shes probably thinking i've asked her to call. this probably wont help. I really need to give myself a kick up the ass, i need to focus at work and get my personal life less cluttered and easier. I wonder if she is missing me?

Hi All, I really wish i'd read up on all this a few days ago! split with my ex getting on for a week now. Went round hers last night, did the teary eyed desperate look, what was i thinking, im so weak! Shes told me its over, shes asked for her space, told me all the stuff that its pushing her further away! she was getting tears in her eyes too. i was stuck in this deluded thought that, well, its over anyway, whats a bit more contact going to harm! it really doesnt matter what anyone was saying to me, i was so driven by this feeling of emptiness! to be totally honest, i know why we split, and i even have had doubts myself on the relationship, but as i do love her, and im overpowered by the thoughts i have about misses her. i'm up for this challenge, if its for seeing if something works out, or maybe it might help me think straight and move on. the one thing i do know is that she does love me, but sometimes the arguements are too much, we both need to do alot of soul searching and figure out what the score is!